If you could do it over again?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
If you could do it over again?
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 9:10am

Just been thinking alot lately about these last 10 years of my life (my kids are almost 10) and wonder if I had it to do over again, would I have quit my job and given up so much to be with my kids? I think I would have quit but would have gone about things sooooo differently.


My advice to anyone thinking of quiting to be home with kids is....don't take yourself out of your own life (financially, career wise, socially)!! Too many of us make this sacrifice only to find ourselves, years later, wanting back "in" (jobs for example) and not being able to get back even close to where we were before.

 

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 9:24am

It is very difficult to juggle a job, children, houeswork etc. I personally did not

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 10:08am

I know it isn't easy for sure!! I think that as kids get older, need you less in the day to day things, they really need you more- dealing with their life issues- scary stuff- kids turning into pre-teens, I can only imagine the next 10 years!

 

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 10:59am

(((((sweetie)))))


As mom's and wives we lead

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 2:07pm
I hope you find a way to get things in your life to where you want them.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 2:09pm

"(after all, time is something we can never get back),"


This cuts both ways. I'm glad I didn't take a step back in my career just to SAH or go PT (my older child is 8.5 years old), as both my children are now in school at least part of every work day.


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Registered: 01-19-2008
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 5:34pm
kudos on reevaluation of your reality
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Registered: 01-19-2008
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 8:22pm

I think it's important to remember we're all in different places in our lives. I worked on and off when my kids were in school but then quite unexpectedly my husband passed away and I was alone to raise 3 kids from the age of to 19.

I did what I had to do to support all of us and yes I would have liked to be home when my youngest got home from school but I was very lucky that he could ride the bus home to my parents.

Sometimes I wonder how different things would have been had I been able to be more available to my kids but they all turned out to be wonderful adults so something was done right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 9:11pm

Twentysix2,


Yes i would do so many things differently, as well. I'm however looking at well i have a 15 and 10 year old.

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 5:33am

that i agree with you, we all think that when are kids are young they need us the most, but already going thru 2 kids that graduated and one in midel school i have learned that is really when they need you, thy think they do not but they do. i know alot of parents around here as soon as they hit middl school alot are on there own. to me that when you really need to be watching and in there face.


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Registered: 05-14-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 6:00am

This is my first time here and I thought it would be interesting to read what younger women think about staying home or working.

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