If you had to choose...

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Registered: 04-22-2005
If you had to choose...
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Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:00pm

between being a full-time WOHM and a full-time SAHM (and both were feasible for you), which would you prefer, and why?
Given my job and my personality, I would prefer WOH. I don't find my job difficult or stressful. I very much enjoy it and feel energized by it. At the same time, I am lousy about domestic chores, so I would like to have the extra income for someone to help out with that. I'm also lousy at making my own routines and paying enough attention to DS, so although I love being around him, I don't have the energy to be a SAHM, and I feel that DS would actually have a better and more fun time in quality othercare.

How about you? If your choices were full-time WOHM or full-time SAHM, which would you prefer, and why?

Just so everyone knows, I'm more interested in the "why" part of the question. I've intentionally oversimplified the issue by making it an either/or choice between two options. What personality traits, desires, etc do you think would make you personally more suited to one or the other if you had to go all-or-none?




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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2008
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:44am

I will be a WOHM by choice.


My career field (marketing) is incredibly challenging day after day. I need to be outside the home. I need the constant change, interaction, and camaraderie with coworkers.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 12:20pm

Me too.


I know I've always said that I'd WOH forever no matter what, and I probably will...but I've changed my mind a little.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 9:53pm

I've always been a full time WOHM by choice.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 9:55pm
Did you schedule those calls from 9 pm to midnight?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 9:58pm

"Extraverted people might have a harder time getting their intellectual needs met if they're not working."


In my case, being extraverted and also not a self starter, WOH is definitely better.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:00pm
40 hours a week is part time in a law firm - depends on the industry.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:06pm
You're making me so glad my company subsidizes my gym membership.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:26pm
I like working in the evening - I'm on a call with my Singapore team right now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 8:56am
Got it - that helps explain why you prefer to WAH and I prefer to WOH.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 9:15am
the ymca is no fancy gym either.

 

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