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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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And i've done it all without bf or co-sleeping or attachment parenting, etc. In fact, the coolest thing came this weekend from my son who's basically anti-jewish (even though he studied for and performed his bar-mitzvah spectacularly)...HE said to ME that he wants to investigate going to the hebrew high school next year! Yeah, i can see how i'm doing things wrong...BWHWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
the ridiculousness is astounding.
eileen
And for the fifth time, because bm comes from the breast not a cup. Again, How much time and effort do you think I should put into trying to convince or persuade you otherwise?
"Because we want to believe that if we dot every i and cross every parenting t our children will grow up happy, healthy and successful. We want to believe that we are in control of our children's destinies. Nothing could be further from the truth. You can do everything right and have a terrible result."
Sure, "you can do everything right and have a terrible result." However, you still did everything right now didn't you?
"If I were you, that's exactly what I would be asking myself. Then I'd give myself a break and go outside and be silly with my kid."
But that's exactly what I *do* DO.
"You're the one who claims that there's a difference. Once again, show me, using supported facts, because your unsupported opinion doesn't mean a hill of beans."
Show you what, that there's a difference between bfing and ffing, between SAH and WOH, between an unmedicated birth and a medicated birth? Are you serious? You want me to prove to you that there are differences between these choices? Isn't this just plain ol' common sense? Well, ok here are some links for you, not that I expect you to actually read any of them.
http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/bottle_culture.html
http://www.breastfeeding.org/newsletter/v1i3/page1.html
http://www.foxbeingthere.com/titles.htm#Table%20of%20Contents
http://www.familyandhome.org/policy/childcare_debate.html
http://www.fulltimemothers.org/ccres.htm
http://wywy.essortment.com/daycareinform_rwyy.htm
http://www.bygpub.com/natural/natural-childbirth.htm
So basically what you're saying is: there's no reason to even try, especially when there's no guarantee. Now that's a great attitude to have.
What really gets to you is that Momofhk has parenting ideals now, she had them before she even brought a child into this world and she sticks to her ideals. You can ask for the 100th time why bm is better from the breast than the cup. I still don't buy that the entire La Leche League propaganda has passed you by! It is called bonding and maintaining the milk supply. It is the reason bf'ing moms are so disappointed when their newborns are placed in the NICU. It is the same reason people look down on the parent who props up a bottle for the baby to drink alone in his bassinet. I'm not surprised she has given up on trying to repeat over and over why the breast is preferable. Forget billables for the moment and accept as I have that there are moms out there who have researched their parenting choices (whether before or after the baby is born), they live by their ideals and their children will benefit. I could never do what AP parents swear by. But, I will allow that they are likely bonding with their children by co-sleeping in ways that I am missing out on. I give them credit, I'm not going to pretend they have absolutely no basis when the research may bear them out.
<> Momofhk has done an excellent job of debating here. This board is full of opinions, controversial weak studies, some anecdotal support, but few facts. The MIT analytical debates board has a different website.
<> Maybe that's why you make your parenting choices. I make my choices based on what I understand to be best - not what is known to be second-best. If I'm told children with a ft sahp is best, I'm there. Although I would've been happy ff'ing, I bf for the first yrs. Unlike you, I don't approach parenting as a results-oriented game. I refuse to leave it all to the Wheel of Fortune and say, I'm just going to go ahead with making myself happy because whatever I do, if my child ends up in jail, I couldn't have controlled it anyway.
Have you ever figured out the psychic cost of trying to be the perfect mother and live up to your ideals?
Of course I try.
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You haven't proven any point other that you are very good at posing your opinions as facts. And your opinions are not facts. They are SIMPLY opinions AND wrong at that. Those of us who live in the real world deal with real facts. Not "because it sounds good to me" opinions.
I think your "time and effort" should be spent showing real research and data that shows bm "is waaaaay better" than ebm. Until then, like I said, you can say it a gazillion times and your still wrong about ebm.
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Um...juice does not come from a cup either...exactly how does the juice get into the cup?
PumpkinAngel
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