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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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Not that you'll answer this (or even see it since you've probably got me on "ignore") but since this is your feeling, once our children are done with BFing, shall we have them drink regular milk directly from a cow's teet since, according to your theory, it's best when it comes directly from the source?
Hugs,
Bridget & Ethan (5)
PumpkinAngel
All of this rests on "bonding and attachment" huh? Well bonding and attachment is not solely dependent upon EBF and co-sleeping. Can it be a factor? Sure. Is it always a factor? No. Is it the only factor? HELL NO.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
*sigh* Don't you read your memos? Fathers don't matter in the early years. They have to wait until the kid is 3-4 years old and away from the nipple before they're allowed to bond.
*shaking my head* And here I thought you were becoming such a good little poster.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Because my dd is 7 YEARS OLD, in other words, SCHOOL-AGED (not 6 weeks or 6 months old, or even a toddler or a preschooler).
Also, she is in *SCHOOL* for 6 hours a day, 7.5 months of the year (at home for 4.5 MONTHS), NOT in *DC* for 7 hours a day (or the typical 8-10+ hours) YEAR ROUND.
Now do you see the difference? BTW, why on earth do younger infants and children *need* to be in *substitute care* for *longer hours*, as well as *more days per year* than SCHOOL-AGED children are in SCHOOL? How does that make any sense?
"What is *natural* about sending your dd to school for substitute care?"
Nothing, because SCHOOL is NOT substitute care. Duh!!!
PumpkinAngel
PumpkinAngel
Hell, if we talk "natural" I don't know if dd would be here. The cord was wrapped around her neck, her heart rate kept dropping and she had to be vacuum extracted. If I'd done a truly natural birth, the way "nature" and momofhk intended, she wouldn't have come out alive.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
What, *someone* who actually gets it??? I can hardly believe it!!!
Anyway, thanks again for the support. Of course, I wholeheartedly agree with your entire post, especially this paragraph:
"Unlike you, I don't approach parenting as a results-oriented game. I refuse to leave it all to the Wheel of Fortune and say, I'm just going to go ahead with making myself happy because whatever I do, if my child ends up in jail, I couldn't have controlled it anyway."
Absolutely, parenting *isn't* a results-oriented game. It's worth every single moment good AND bad!!!
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