If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:07pm

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Not that you'll answer this (or even see it since you've probably got me on "ignore") but since this is your feeling, once our children are done with BFing, shall we have them drink regular milk directly from a cow's teet since, according to your theory, it's best when it comes directly from the source?

Hugs,

Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:08pm
Popsicles...surely you jest?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:08pm

All of this rests on "bonding and attachment" huh? Well bonding and attachment is not solely dependent upon EBF and co-sleeping. Can it be a factor? Sure. Is it always a factor? No. Is it the only factor? HELL NO.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:09pm

*sigh* Don't you read your memos? Fathers don't matter in the early years. They have to wait until the kid is 3-4 years old and away from the nipple before they're allowed to bond.


*shaking my head* And here I thought you were becoming such a good little poster.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:10pm
"Explain to me how you can be a *natural* mom while your dd is at school 7 hours a day 2/3 of the year, but we aren't *natural* moms when our children are in daycare the same amount of time?"

Because my dd is 7 YEARS OLD, in other words, SCHOOL-AGED (not 6 weeks or 6 months old, or even a toddler or a preschooler).

Also, she is in *SCHOOL* for 6 hours a day, 7.5 months of the year (at home for 4.5 MONTHS), NOT in *DC* for 7 hours a day (or the typical 8-10+ hours) YEAR ROUND.

Now do you see the difference? BTW, why on earth do younger infants and children *need* to be in *substitute care* for *longer hours*, as well as *more days per year* than SCHOOL-AGED children are in SCHOOL? How does that make any sense?

"What is *natural* about sending your dd to school for substitute care?"

Nothing, because SCHOOL is NOT substitute care. Duh!!!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:10pm
Yep...I don't get the LoL's either.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:11pm
I will try harder....I need to find my minion manual and my memos...
PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:15pm
Pssst, hey! PA! Didn't she say in the post above that cups ARE natural??? I'm soooo confused! LOL!
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:16pm

Hell, if we talk "natural" I don't know if dd would be here. The cord was wrapped around her neck, her heart rate kept dropping and she had to be vacuum extracted. If I'd done a truly natural birth, the way "nature" and momofhk intended, she wouldn't have come out alive.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:22pm
Thank you! Thank you! Thank You!

What, *someone* who actually gets it??? I can hardly believe it!!!

Anyway, thanks again for the support. Of course, I wholeheartedly agree with your entire post, especially this paragraph:

"Unlike you, I don't approach parenting as a results-oriented game. I refuse to leave it all to the Wheel of Fortune and say, I'm just going to go ahead with making myself happy because whatever I do, if my child ends up in jail, I couldn't have controlled it anyway."

Absolutely, parenting *isn't* a results-oriented game. It's worth every single moment good AND bad!!!


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