If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:50pm
I think it's an absolute riot that you vehemently agree with someone, who in the past has used articles posted on diaper service websites as "proof" of her claims as to what is "best" for children.

Not surprising. LOL!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:02pm

One of the ways...I agree.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:04pm
So in other words...someone can become firmly bonded and attached to a child without b-feeding?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:05pm
Did you notice the swooop?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:07pm
No. I wish. I went to a playgroup of a friend of mine. It was the first time I met these moms. These moms were a trip. They had waaaaay too much time on their hands. They were seriously discussing sugarfree, whole fruit versus your regular standard fare. "we only get the all natural organic"...yada yada. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. It wasn't enough to say that you fed your kid. But everything had to be backed up with brands and organic counts. Don't even get me going on the television discussion! LOL They were discussing the Ped acadamy reccomendation of tv for under 2 years old. And this one mom was saying how she covers her babies face when she walked by the tv. I was floored. She was totally serious. Like there were radioactive waves coming out of the tv or something.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:08pm

Ok, I go on walks with my kids, I read/tell them stories, I play hide and seek, I give them baths, I build block towers and knock them over ...


I also cuddle in my rocking chair with them almost daily. I ride bikes with them. I swim with them. I spend hours looking for the "King with a sling" in the frustrating I Spy puzzle. I do a bazillion other things along the lines of what your dh does with your kids.


But, I did use a bottle with ds.


OMG ... does that mean all of a sudden all my bonding activities are for naught? GASP!


You are so full of bull hockey ...


If your dh can have a secure, attached bond with your dd without ever having had her suck on his nipple, then why pray tell, can no one else?

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:09pm
It's proven everyday by the healthy, attached children walking around everyday that were fed ebm or ff.
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:19pm
No, he's not. In your opinion, since brestfeeding from the breast is such a BIGGIE. Then he was promoting DETACHMENT by not feeding from the source and therefore not attached. Again according to your theory, unless he was carrying that child the entire time he worked and never left her side he was promoting detachment. So no he just isn't attached according to YOUR theory.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:22pm
"No I wouldn't consider it one of the biggies, it's really a small part of a childs life, overall."

Well I would LOL, my dd bf for well over 3 years. Btw, she's now 7 so that's at least half her life overall (so far of course)!

"Actually it's a very small percentage of time and again?"

Again, it depends on how long a child bf's as to whether it's a very samll percentage of time.

"why does one need a breast in the mouth? Why could not one bond and form an attachment by using a bottle in the same physical hold and manner one would b-feed?"

They can still bond, a bottle simply adds an *artificial* element that clearly isn't a necessary component to bonding. However, aside from bonding aspects, there are *nutritional* as well as *developmental* aspects to consider. For instance, valuable nutrients are lost in the expressing/pumping/storing/freezing process. Also, a bottle doesn't promote proper oral and jaw development.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:23pm
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very well said. thanks for saving me the time.

eileen

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