If you hadn't had kids...
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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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"Unless of course you are suggesting that your dh's bond isn't as strong as *your* bond with your dd."
Yes, eventhough I didn't suggest it, I would agree with that. Yes, I'd say that my dh's bond isn't *quite* as strong as my bond. I carried her for 9 months, I delivered her, I bf her for over 3 years, I have SAH with her for 7 years, I have homeschooled her for 5 years, etc. Sure, his bond is very strong, but mine is stronger. Eventhough he has put in an incredible amount of time and effort, seeing as he's a WAHD and all, I've simply put in more. Now, ask me again when she gets a bit older, say 18, and we'll re-evaluate. I'm guessing that the bond will become much more *equal* the older she gets.
But I don't *need* to support my family financially, nor do *they* need me to?
eileen
And as far as you being a legend in your own mind to your daughter...... Moms have a way of setting the situation up to say the bond is stronger with the mom. Somehow makes them feel more important. I had no insecurities with my husband having just as strong of a bond with our ds. I bf, cosleep and sah. My ds is just as bonded to my dh. It can work that way if you *let* it happen. Some moms just need to think their more important than dads. But it's so much more healthy to share an equal bond with the dad.
Absolutely, hence the reason behind *why* we homeschool. But actually, I really can't take the credit for educating her, she more or less educates herself. I simply facilitate the process by helping her to gather materials and such, and by following her lead. In other words, it wasn't me who thought she needed to learn how to write to 100 in Chinese LOL. It was completely her interest. Kids are absolutely amazing!!! ALL of them have something special to share.
i must be getting senile as i thought we had a long, long, long discussion over it on the other board.
don't worry. a contortionist has NOTHING on you, LOL.
eileen
But you aren't going to follow my theory LOL.
"she better start working on her sucking muscles. Or she should stick to oranges."
And why is that?
FWIW, this crib-using, dc-using, ft-wohm, bottle-feeding mom can't for the life of me figure out how my bonds/attachments with my kids are ANY less real than yours....artificial? what a freaking joke.
eileen
That's really cool!!!
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