If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:50pm
So why does she need you to SAH if she does it all herself? Surely she could do that in othercare while you WOH?

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:55pm

blows me away...... I can only imagine what it's like to sit all day and ponder the value (or lack thereof)

Mondo

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:59pm
"Moms have a way of setting the situation up to say the bond is stronger with the mom. Somehow makes them feel more important."

Oh, I don't think a stronger bond makes me *more important* by any means. My dh's role is extremely important. He is completely and totally responsible for our financial security. He's amazing!!!

"I had no insecurities with my husband having just as strong of a bond with our ds."

I have no insecurities either, in fact, I think our bonds will most definately even out as my dd gets older.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:59pm
So, have you upgraded to Cal King yet? ;)

There is just enough room on one side of

Mondo

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 8:02pm
"So why does she need you to SAH if she does it all herself? Surely she could do that in othercare while you WOH?"

But why WOH, if I don't need to, and my family doesn't need me to?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 8:26pm
If you don't want to, and your family doesn't need you to, then don't. But don't use your dd "needing" you to SAH as your reason and then turn around and spell out how she does everything by herself. You are the one that said she NEEDED you to SAH.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 8:57pm
LOL! When we first had ds we had (if you can believe it) a double bed. We went to a queen then now we have a king. I have absolutely no idea how we ever did it before the king. He pretty much has been sleeping 80% in his own bed and will want to come in with us the rest of the time.

So how are you feeling?! How is the indigestion? I waas so naseous the last week & 1/2 I couldn't even think straight. The last couple of days I feel like a new person. I just got my 10 week ultrsasound yesterday. It feels "real" now. I can't believe I am 2 weeks away from my 2nd trimester! Anyway, I hope all is well and that your daughter is fairing with your "artificial" parenting! LOL Artificial parenting - what a hoot! Take care!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:00pm
If that's your idea of effective advocacy, it's no mystery why you're no longer gainfully employed as an attorney.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:02pm
Actually, some do. Children can benefit from increases in SES that result from both parents working. Dc becomes a benefit if both parents working will increase SES. One of the reasons my kids will be able to go to college is that they went to dc as babies. Because I didn't break employment when they were born, they're set. We wouldn't live where we live if I had quit my job. We'd still be living in the city in a neighborhood where you can't go out and play because it's too rough and you can't use the parks because of broken glass and needles in the grass. My dd's have benefitted from having attended dc from the time they were wee babes.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:13pm

I'm lousy, thanks for asking.

Mondo

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