If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 8:53am
No. Actually, all the attention she got thrilled me. I was happy to let people hold her. She was in the first batch of babies all around so everyone was still really interested. By the time I had my second, 2.5 years later, we were all used to the whole concept of babies and he got alot less attention. I felt sort of bad for him. Not only that, the general toddler brigade was doing a failry fantastic job of getting the lions share of attention all to themselves. The babies were just kind of "there" that time around.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 9:16am
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No, not really. I adored my son and held him all the time, but I didn't mind, at all, sharing him with others. I felt totally secure in my bond with him from the first second, and he was always such a little social butterfly and just ADORED "making the rounds" so to speak, that I didn't mind sharing at all. Had he been fractious or uncomfortable with others (such as my best friend's daughter, who is 11 months older than John and who was so NOT a social butterfly), then I would have limited who held him. But he loved to go to others, especially my ex's former barracks roommates and they used to be so cute about asking if they could "play with John", that I didn't have the heart to discourage any of them. Besides, it's pretty awesome watching people dote on a kid you think is the greatest kid of all time.

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Actually, I think the reason everyone keeps questioning her is that 6 million Chinese people can't be wrong...or IOW, maybe the reason EVERYONE questions her is that her arguments are sufficiently weak, they cannot be supported.


Edited 6/4/2004 9:19 am ET ET by hank_n_indys_mommy

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 9:53am

Just me?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 10:58am

Thanks...i'll send you the forms and manual to being my minion.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:36am
Okay, I'm gonna start crying. :-(

Not ONCE has anyone asked me to be their minion or said that I am theirs. I'm insulted and I'm gonna take my toys and leave. PPPBBBBBTTTTTTT :-P

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:38am
I am your devoted minion.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:05pm
Oh Lauren...I thought it was assumed that I was your minion....see me following you around sticking my thumbs up on almost every post?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:38pm
Okay, I feel better now. Thanks to BOTH you and PNJ. I just needed to hear the words.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 8:47pm
Just for the record, I've never posted about SAHM's, so there's nothing for you to agree or disagree with.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 6:15am
You post on a sah/woh debate board and have "never posted about sahms?"

I recall one recent post of yours because a man had written in. He said his wife is a sahm, she complains about how hard her days at home with the children are, yet phone bills show she has lots of time on the phone. You responded to the effect that he was being used and deceived. I had to laugh at that one. That's pretty much the life of sahms I know - lots of tedious work, desperate for the minute dh walks in the door to hand the children off to him since the day is so draining, time on the phone is the only mental escape possible short of hiring a sitter. That's a pretty negative stereotype you tapped into. But if you want to state FTR you've never commented on sah on a sah/woh debate board, I'll take your word on it!

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