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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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eileen
here's the website if you're interested...http://www.dreameventsinc.com/
just click on the schedule and see if there's one near you. this will be my 4th or my 5th. at the last one i got 44 pages of our make-a-wish trip done.
eileen
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No, my dd has never cared for apple juice. Apples yes, juice no. Go figure :)
I think we have just
PumpkinAngel
Sure kids need all of these things, however I simply feel that I *personally* am the best person to provide, encourage, and enforce these things. In other words, I want to impart my ideals on my child *myself*. I simply do not trust that substitutes are going to do these things as I want them done.
Not only that, I strongly believe in consistency. I think it is best for children to have One Primary Caregiver/Nurturer who has a vested interest in them, rather than a large number of constantly changing and thus inconsistent substitute caregivers who do not. But, that's just me.
I grew up in full time dc/substitute care and it was not a pleasant nor rewarding experience for me. I'm not saying that it can't be pleasant and rewarding for some children, however according to statistics, this type of high quality dc scenerio is not very common. In fact, low quality dc situations like the ones I experienced, are the norm.
I couldn't agree more!!! Call me radical and crazy, even militant if you like, but you can bet your bottom dollar that I will do everything in my power to do what is best for my child. Not only that, when and if I do "knowingly chose second best," (because clearly no one is perfect) I am more than willing to acknowledge the fact. In other words, although I "knowingly chose second best," by having a medicated birth (instead of an unmedicated birth), I wholeheartedly acknowledge that this choice was second best. Not equal, not different, but in fact, second best.
But I *could* breastfeed, as can the vast majority of women.
FACT #1: I personally am the one to "provide, encourage, and enforce these things" with some "reinforcement" from our care providers.
FACT #2: yes, we imparted our "own" ideals, LOL. Of course they're the kinds of things that are SHARED by the overwhelming majority of GOOD people -- just like you and me. Our dcps/nannies/preschool teachers ALL were able to dovetail nicely with our "ideals".
FACT #3: consistency? ABSOLUTELY. that's why they've had ME as their MOM since the days that they were conceived. As for our caregivers, we've had PLENTY of consistency, but I'm not going to go through that all again. Changes lately??? NONE...dd in same preschool class for 6 years, nanny for 1 year, 1 home health aide for 2 years, one home health aide for 1.5 years....these are all people who love and adore my kids.
FACT #4: I'm sorry for what you experienced, but it is NOT the norm. I find it hard to believe that, by the luck of the draw, i've had more than 6+ POSITIVE dc situations. Thankfully, my children and those of all the kids that i know have had MUCH more positive experiences in dc.
eileen
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