If you hadn't had kids...
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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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Yes I did miss that....can you point out where you said that?
PumpkinAngel
Family memberships to museums are usually a great bargain. We have memberships to our Children's Museum and zoo and get way more than our money's worth out of them. We also have a membership to a smaller science museum in my mil's town that has reciprocal arrangements with museums all over the country. We go to the Field Museum in Chicago and to all kinds of other places for free. What a deal!
Sure, it's post 1276. Here's an excerpt.
"I agree that parents aren't everything and that other relationships have a lot to offer a child. However, I think there is a big difference between parents, relatives, and close friends who have a genuine vested interest in a child, vs. paid substitutes who are merely paid to do so. In other words, clearly pay does not insure that a substitute will develop a genuine vested interest in a child."
How sad. You mean that your kids don't go and spend time with their grandfather? Why?You would think that relatives and close friends would be more likely to have a long term vested interest in your kids than a paid substitute. Tell me, do you think your paid substitute would continue to have a long term vested interest in your kids if she was no longer *paid*? In other words, is the long term vested interest *genuine* or based on a paycheck? Also, how *long term* do you think your nanny's *vested interest* will be? How long has she been with you? What kind of training does she have? BTW, how many dc/substitute care/nanny situations have you had since your kids were born?
My father is a newlywed and chooses to spend the vast majority of nights and weekends with his bride of about a year.
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Oh, I'm sure that they were. BTW, do you *pay* all of your "close friends" to develop a long term one-on-one relationship with your children?
"who have a vested interest in doing a great job of caretaking....OR are you implying that dcp can't have a "vested interest" in giving great care to each and every child that they are charged with caring for?"
I am saying that a *vested interest* is should bebased on a long term one-on-one relationship with the child, not simply a *vested interest* in caretaking.
How incredibly sad that some of your relatives and friends do not have long term vested interest in your kids.
Janet
Don't I...someone from a debate board, not a
PumpkinAngel
I really don't understand your logic about vested interest and limiting that to only close relatives, friends, and whatnot.
PumpkinAngel
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