If you hadn't had kids...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
1649
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:00pm
You don't have to be a parent to volunteer, you know. In fact, some of my single friends are much more dedicated to their volunteer work than I am, mainly because they don;t have the logistics of kids to deal with.

Susan

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:04pm
You do realize that church volunteering is not necessarily for the people in the congregation. Many times we are asked to volunteer for civic organizations that really have nothing to do with church. I have never met a clergyman who is not constantly urging their congegrantes to volunteer. Because chucrches are part of the cimmunity. They expect themselves to give to the community. I find it hard to beleive that a church, any church, woudl isolate themselves to the point of not doing good works in the community.

Susan

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:05pm
When he tells me after all these years, I will tell you! We never did discuss that and we both knew I was going to be a sahw from the beginning.

I'm not evading the question, I'm answering it the only way I can.

I have always loved domestic stuff so I guess I just knew myself I would do it.

As far as your last question....I always knew that is what I wanted & I'm lucky enough that my true love is supportive of that decision.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:05pm
Absolutely!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:09pm
Yes. I didn't say our church doesn't. But with a small congregation it is hard. With not having a fulltime minister it is hard. I just write checks, that is how we give. I don't get all into the what are you doing, when are you doing it. I'm talking a total of 25 people here including the minister and his wife and my dh, dd, and myself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:10pm
Um, yes. But I still wouldn't volunteer myself at the school unless I did have a child or until my child starts attending. As far as other volunteering, of course. Not going to do that either.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:11pm
?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:14pm
"I can't really answer this, because it doesn't apply to me. But I was more than ready after 13 weeks to go back to work, and have some respite from childcaring, and to use my brain again."

Why did you need respite from childcaring? Sure, it's demanding, but *whose* job do you think it is anyway? In other words, if *you* need respite from your infant, and you're the mother, what makes you think someone else will want to do it? Hmm, it certainly seems as if the scenerio I suggested, does in fact apply here.

"Do you find caring for an infant intellectually stimulating?

Absolutely!!! I've never learned, read, researched, etc. so much in my life. But I suppose there must be a cetain level of *interest* involved in order to be intellectually stimulated by something. Also, you do realize that you don't necessarily need others, to "use *your* brain" or to be "intellectually stimulated" right?

"What about moms with PPD, who desire a lot of adult interaction - such a mom might choose to get that from WOH."

What about a mom with PPD, who desires a lot of adult interaction? How exactly does WOH treat/cure PPD? Hmm, sounds more like an *escape* to me. Also, do WOHM's have a patent on adult interaction? BTW, what about desiring a lot of parent-child interaction? Isn't that somewhat of a requirement for being a good parent. I mean, why have children at all, if you don't particularly enjoy the company of children, especially your own?


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:16pm
Yes, but those "solids" consist of cereal (the pureed kind) and other mashed up *soft* foods. Other than cheerios, what types of "solids" was your dd eating? I ask because most 5 month olds don't have enough teeths to be chomping on most types of solid foods.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:18pm
LOL! That's true. If I had a SAH*H*, I'd *expect* him to be doing the cooking, the cleaning, and other household work.

Pages