If you hadn't had kids...

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If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:47pm
"Yes, but those "solids" consist of cereal (the pureed kind) and other mashed up *soft* foods. Other than cheerios, what types of "solids" was your dd eating? I ask because most 5 month olds don't have enough teeths to be chomping on most types of solid foods."

She didn't do cereal either. She just didn't like it. Other than cheerios she also liked: green beans, crackers, bread, bananas, peas, applesause, carrots, etc. You're right, most 5 month olds *don't* have enough teeth to eat solid foods, however these foods don't necessarily *require* teeth. Also, the key word here is *started*. She did quite a bit of experimenting before she actually started getting any *real* nutritional value from the foods. I estimated that it took her about 6 weeks, but in all actuality it could have been closer to a couple of months. I really wasn't worried though, because she was bfing so successfully :)

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:52pm
I think that is pretty much it. when i donated for the marrow program, they took one vial of blood and were outta there. it took 30 seconds. i cant phathom lying there with the tube in my arm for a half hour, or however long it takes for a pint of blood. i cant explain it to you, but the thoughts of it make me sick. and as savcal so delicately put it, i pass out and vomit at the same time and it is oh so *not* pretty.

p.s. for the bone marrow program they take blood, not a bone marrow biopsy. if someone who has luekemia and needs a bone marrow transplant, that is when they go to the database, and the blood taken indicates a match or not. that is when they would do the big stuff, and im thinking one is put under for that procedure.


Edited 5/24/2004 7:56 pm ET ET by almostfreeof3

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:57pm

How about this "bfing *with absolutely no use of bottles whatsoever*" ... seems to work for me.


BTW, my dd NEVER had a bottle. Had only breastmilk until about 5 mo. Eventually worked herself up to real people food. Was using a cup by 9mo.


And gee, I did all this while WOH/WAH.

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:02pm
They don't. Neither did I. Sorry you misunderstood. Yes, that is ignorant. I didn't mean whatever I said that gave you that impression that way. Again, you misunderstood.

I found what you must have taken wrongly. "Unlike organizations such as the red cross that would never possibly affect me unless I decided to utilize the library more, then it would." I was talking about the fact that if I don't use the library then whether people do or don't or that I do or don't volunteer really isn't an affect to me, UNLIKE the red cross (meaning of course that would be a service I would may have to use at some point & utilize their volunteers, where I've never volunteered for them).

Again, sorry you misunderstood what I wrote & hope this clears it up for you.




Edited 5/24/2004 8:08 pm ET ET by foreversahwoman

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:27pm
What a wuss.
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:30pm
I agree with you on that, although I *do* know some people who are not currently volunteering. They are all, in one form or another, not able to volunteer *right now* but have volunteered in the past and with the exception of folks like my grampa in a nursing home who is no longer mentally able to do so and will likely never regain the mental or physical capacity to volunteer, will do so again when circumstances (physical or personal) permit.

Like you, many of the families in our church include their children in their mission work, such as when we participate in Operation Shoebox, when we have our week for Winterhaven (a homeless shelter provided throughout the winter by the local churches; each church takes one week for the men and one week for the women, providing a place to sleep and shower, all three meals (breakfast and dinner, as well as a brown bag lunch) and fellowship (games, conversation, TV, etc.)),, when we do Angel Tree and many other forms of volunteerism that are available both through our church and through our contacts with other local churches.

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:42pm
I'm jumping back into this thread so late and I apologize.

All of this talk about not volunteering makes me so sad. Seems like everyone is missing the point. I believe that volunteering is almost *necessary* for a healthy community and if more people volunteered, we could rely on the government a lot less.

Volunteering doesn't only mean working in a soup kitchen... it's making the gardens nice in the public areas of your town. It's picking up the trash. It's taking an hour to read to some of the kids in the library. And giving $$ only doesn't help if there isn't a warm body to carry out the duties! Time is almost ALWAYS more valuable....that's why it's harder to give than $$.

After working for a non-profit dental service for years, I realized that much of our program wouldn't have been successful without the help of the volunteers. Helping out your neighbor isn't a choice imo, it's a condition of being.

And not giving blood?? Suck it up, people! I'm a rare blood type (A-) and I give. Haven't in a few years because I've been spending all my time pregnant, but if I had some kind of complication in this next delivery, I would be very grateful to all of those people who had.

Meldi

ps: I meet the weight requirement, pregnant or not. :)

Oh, before anyone asks, I have volunteered at the Y, belong to Volunteers of America, various health fairs, Fire Dept stuff. I am not a committee person, I just go in a do a job, whatever's needed.

Meldi
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:47pm

And money for these organizations is not a pressing need?


btw--cleaning up puke after your own child is a bit different then volunteering at the homeless shelter.

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:48pm
Not sure what your asking?

Misty

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:54pm
I respect your (and everyone's) opinion on volunteering. I have said it before countless times, I know there are other things in volunteering. Other ways to volunteer. I was speaking of one type only.

I give freely & openly helping family & friends. I spend what time I would volunteer in some other place giving to them in however I can and I do it lovingly and because it fills my heart with joy.

I don't see the need to take away partially from what I do for them to do these other types of volunteer roles.

If (and this is a small if at that) I were to homeschool my dd, I would not feel I still owed it to the school system to go in and volunteer. I'd spend the time giving in ways to family and friends.

Yes, if I opted to volunteer in the things mentioned here, I would have to not give as often and as much to my family and friends. Although I am a sahw I don't just have endless time to fill.

But I respect completely and admire those who want to volunteer in how you, pumpkin and others here express volunteering means to you. I say do it. But don't expect others to do as you do.

As for giving blood, I've been told no. I didn't realize the weight thing, but giving that bit of info, I wouldn't be elgible anyway.


Edited 5/24/2004 8:57 pm ET ET by foreversahwoman

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