If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:44am

Why?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:48am

Ohh...Ohhh...I wanna answer this one.


Just like I don't "expect" dh to be the sole bread winner (although at times, that is what we chose together), he doesn't "expect" me to be the sole house keeper.


I have no clue what he thinks I would do in or around the house if I didn't keep house.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:51am
I can't imagine anyone more broad-minded than the retiree who gets to plop himself in a comfortable chair all day and read, read, read. Remember Somerset Maugham's The Razor's Edge? The protagonist goes on a journey to find the meaning of life and why he was spared in the war. He holes up in an apt in Paris to do nothing but read (and work packing fish so that he could eke out a living.) That's the dream image I have for myself when I retire - reading even more and finally understanding what life was all about. I certainly didn't like the narrow slice of life I witnessed all of those yrs I worked in Manhattan.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:55am
Only if I can be yours....how do we pick turns?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:56am
your welcome.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:59am
Me too. I never lived a day in my life that I didn't know I wanted to be a mother.

Jenna

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:00am

But see, I don't view your memorial luncheon as volunteering.

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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:23am
May I just say a huge THANK YOU for donating platelets.

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:35am
Unlike you, FSW's DH is and always has been the sole breadwinner.

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:38am
No, your post said this:

>>The only reason I can think of, is that the mother realized that she didn't really enjoy motherhood as much as she thought she would, or that she realized that she enjoyed WOH, more than she enjoyed being at home with her own child? <<<

The ONLY reasons you cited was that a parent who had planned on SAH, but went back to work, was that either she didn't like motherhood, or that she loved work more than her children.

Your post also said this:

>>Why would it be a positive thing for a mother to realize that she didn't really enjoy motherhood as much as she thought she would, or that she enjoyed WOH, more than she enjoyed being at home with her own child, especially if that had been her plan prior to having a child? <<

Do you really believe that motherhood is the same as SAH?

I can understand a parent not enjoying SAH, a lot more than I can understand, "If you WOH you must not like motherhood at all."

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