If you hadn't had kids...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:26am

It's interesting that you posted your thoughts on your perceived undercurrent about sahms and volunteering because I was just talking about this last night

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:27am

Yes, I found it completely depleting to work a 10 hour day, come home, go into 17 hours of labor on zero sleep, and proceed to get no more than 3 hours of sleep at a stretch for more than 6 months.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:29am
I wasn't answering the question for her.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:30am
Knowing something is going to be incredibly hard and exhausting does not, imo, make it less incredibly hard and exhausting.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:39am

I love the ages my boys are at, they are so much fun.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:55am
Now see, back in the day, donating to the neo-natal unit meant about a minute or two with the needle (because infants, especially preemies, don't need much blood, but they need it fresh), but it meant being on a beeper, and donating about every other week or so. Still, it was kinda fun and I miss it terribly.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:03am
Exactly. And I don't know of one single church that ever turned down a volunteer because they weren't a member. Heck, until last Sunday, the woman who is the chairperson for Ministries & Missions and Nurture & Evangelism committees was not a member of our church. (She also heads up the Tape Ministry, works the sound board for the 8:30 service, volunteers with two separate branches of Prison Fellowship and is a fellow board member at large of our Emmaus community.)

And while I certainly agree that all people are free to live as they choose, even if that means not volunteering, I really stumble over the idea of professing Christians freely choosing such a way of life. "Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to Me.'" Maybe it doesn't bother them....and maybe I'm totally misinterpreting the message Jesus was giving...but it seems pretty clear TO ME that Christ was advocating a life of service and dying to self.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:06am
This is how we chose it in a mutual decision upon marriage. He knew I really wanted to be a sahw & he is happy with that. Had I fallen in love with my soul mate who did not wish to have a sahw then I would have had to compromise by using my skills to work.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:06am
Really? How so. I'm pretty confident that's an absolute. Why "look forward to retiring" unless it's because they don't want to work? Why else would someone "look forward to retiring?" Just so they could finally garden, despite missing work? I doubt that.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:06am
Thanks!

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