If you hadn't had kids...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
If you hadn't had kids...
1649
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:08pm
"Not exactly right. I did WAH most of the time, but DID have to go to the office and to client's offices several times a week. Just never stayed longer than 3 hours and worked my office hours around dd's bfing schedule (a schedule SHE put herself on ... not one I imposed .. her "demand" times for feeding simply became very predictable.)"

Good for you!!! I can see how exclusive bfing on demand could work while WOH, seeing as you were never gone more than 3 hours. Clearly, you were very lucky to be able to arrange this kind of schedule. However, I would probably consider you more of a WAHM than a WOHM, in that you "WAH most of the time". But reguardless, I still have to say good for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:16pm

Could you PLEASE stop disparaging those who married early by ASSUMING they did or didn't give marriage any more or less thought than you or anyone older did?


I'm not speaking for FSW, but my dh and I put LOTS of thought into marriage, and we still do. . .on a day to day basis.

Virgo

Virgo
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:23pm

<>


I never said bottle-feeding was best...so why would I go looking for research?

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:24pm

Actually with me....it wasn't *I*, it was *we* as in dh and I.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:25pm
Another possible way was mine....I took the baby with me to

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:35pm
"So I am interested in what you think is SOOOOO terrible about a mother having a job?"

Because I think that children should come first, not second, or third, or fourth...

Because I think that it is a mother's primary responsibility to personally provide care for her children, rather than the responsibility of a substitute who is paid to provide care in the mother's absence.

Because I think that children should be bf on demand, from the actual source, until they self wean. In other words, I think that bf without bottles, without sippy cups, without pumping, without expressing, without freezing ebm, and without thawing ebm is BEST.

Because I think that substitute care/dc is very impersonal and completely innappropriate for infants and young children, especially when it's full-time.

Because I think that SAH is important and that children are well worth it.



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:38pm
It's not that I really have trouble understanding that people want to live a life of leisure. What I don't understand, or rather believe, is that your dh truly did not think that you'd be the one doing the cooking and the majority of housework. I doubt that him working FT then coming home to make dinner, clean the house, make the curtains, do the laundry, etc. was part of his "plan." That's all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:38pm
"No, i have never stated any such thing. It takes both of our salaries to keep our household running. However, that also leaves quite a bit left over for personal pursuits."

Yes, you did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:43pm
Hmm. For someone who claims that she doesn't go by the "expert recommendations" you sure put up a lot of links citing the "experts." Only when it backs up *your* claims, huh.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:49pm
This is ridiculous. Kudos to all those people who SAH/WOH/WAH but found ways to not give EBM in a bottle. Well, I BF when I was home in the morning, evenings, nights, and on the weekend. But the rest of the time, my dd got EBF in a bottle. How exactly is she going to be worse off because of that? Is she going to love me less? Is our relationship doomed for life? Is she going to be losing a few IQ points? Give me a break.

Pages