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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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Trish :)
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It is a mother's responsibility to make sure her kids are cared for. But there are other people who can care for them adequately. Does your dh ever care for your kids? How about other family members? Do you and dh ever go out and get a babysitter? I don't think neglecting your spouse in favor of your kids is a great decision.
Your stance on bf is ridiculous. Many many kids grow up perfectly normal without bm. I bf my kids exclusively when they were infants but it's really nobody else's business what a mother feeds her child. No harm will come to a child who has bm from a bottle or (gasp) formula.
How do you know substitue care is impersonal? My kids still keep in contact with our old nanny and she hasn't worked for us for 4 years. They love her and look forward to her visits. I wouldn't call that impersonal.
I think there are many benefit to SAH and WOH (having done both). There are also disadvantages to both. I think that the family's individual needs and temperments are what determines what is best for a particular family.
Jenna
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Bridget & Ethan (5)
Jenna
So I guess to be a "good mother" I should have filled my kids' sippy's with juice or water or maybe even beer.
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Bridget & Ethan (5)
Yes, I did cite only these reasons, as this is my opinion on the subject. I simply statied that it was possible that other reasons existed, even if I couldn't understand or accept them. Does this clarify things for you?
"Do you really believe that motherhood is the same as SAH?"
Yep, LOL!!!
"I can understand a parent not enjoying SAH, a lot more than I can understand, "If you WOH you must not like motherhood at all."
Umm, that would be "If you WOH, you must enjoy your job more than you enjoy motherhood". There's a big difference between "enjoying your job more than you enjoy motherhood," and "not liking motherhood at all" LOL.
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Bridget & Ethan (5)
Congratulations you have found out what is best and works for your family.
PumpkinAngel
Do you not realize that different people have different interests?
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I enjoy sushi. My colleague doesn't. I enjoy puzzles. Xh hated them. Is that a hard concept for you?
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No chit, Cherlock. Think you're telling any mother anything new here?
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Yep. but there are sooo many of those good times to go around. My life is so full of them with my kids that missing a few isn't going to hurt any of us.
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It sure is. It simply isn't my ONLY priority. Gee, what could be a higher priority? Paying the bills for one; giving my children some independence for another; having a good time once in a while.
Hollie
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