If you hadn't had kids...
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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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While *I* didn't think it was going to be a day at the beach...I hadn't really been considering the possibility that I would be about as exhaused as final exam crunch...with no FINAL EXAM date in site.
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You know, something about such a huge % of women who ever existed, having done exactly the same thing under far more difficult conditions...kind of rained on the chance for me to stage my own personal "Oh imagine...I can create a baby" parade I guess. I wasn't that impressed with myself. "Oh, I am the only one who could possibly ever love this child enough to provide care" didn't happen either. Same sort of reasons.
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My Mom was a teacher for 46 YEARS. She taught Gr 1.! It was a full 4 years before we could identify her CAREER EXPERIENCE as in any way relevant to the care of GRANDCHILDREN. As my babies and their needs didn't approximate the case of a 6 yr old in anyway I could identify, I wasn't too surprised by this.
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Do you understand the need to find *refuge* or *respite* from other peoples children though? Anyway going to work to support the offspring produced isn't *escaping* from parenthood....its simply 'fessing up to the full range of parental dutie and responsibility. YOU aren't enjoying the ENTIRE experience of of parenthood (good or bad), if you aren't out earning money to support your child. I'm just quite capable and happy to take part in all areas of parenting. Probably, you aren't.
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Well either by WAH he provides YOUR respite...or by WAH he might as well be WOH. Which of your points do you mean to invalidate here?
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Well I CAN do it 7x24...I didn't find it particularily difficult being on maternity leave with one or two kids. And I don't find weekends and vacation or anything else particularily difficult. I dont' even find working while raising them particularily difficult. However, I just don't need 7x24 to do the parenting thing well. So I see no reason to ditch my adult responsibility to get busy providing some bacon...rather than leaving all that up to someone else and living with the resulting decreased standard of living or income security. Whose responsiblity is it to provide for MY children - today and tomorrow - anyway, if not mine?
If you do not like the conclusions draw, that's OK. I believe the whole point of the book is that there were numerous points of view that propagated those early centuries, not only one.
Mondo
I wouldn't trade her toe nail for all of the posters who would denigrate her.
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