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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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Bridget & Ethan (5)
Edited to add a question mark.
Edited 5/26/2004 4:33 pm ET ET by jorvia
Well, luckily I have worked as a dcp, a preschool teacher AND an elementary school teacher so MY *career experience* did in fact prepare me for parenthood/adulthood.
"Do you understand the need to find *refuge* or *respite* from other peoples children though?"
Yes, but what exactly does this have to do with my own?
"Anyway going to work to support the offspring produced isn't *escaping* from parenthood."
Well, for some it is, especially when they freely admit it.
"its simply 'fessing up to the full range of parental dutie and responsibility. YOU aren't enjoying the ENTIRE experience of of parenthood (good or bad), if you aren't out earning money to support your child."
I don't need to earn money to experience the "full range of parental duties and responsibility lol. My dh and I experience the ENTIRE experience together. Is their some reason why mothers *need* to earn money to support their children, if their fathers already earn enough to support the ENTIRE family? WHy? My dd didn't need more money, she needed one-on-one interaction with an ACTUAL PARENT (not a substitute) on a full-time basis, to be bf (on demand from the actual source) for 3 years until she was ready to wean herself, to be in her own home environment on a full-time basis (not a substitute dc environment), to be homeschooled by a parent that has also been a real teacher, etc.
"I'm just quite capable and happy to take part in all areas of parenting. Probably, you aren't."
Actually, since my dd started going to school full-day this year, I WAH for about 3 months doing tax preparation for a relative. I made nearly half the salary I made when I was teaching, and yet I only worked for 3 months. We didn't really need the money, but it was hard to pass up that kind of money for only 3 months of work, especially when my dd was in school anyway. So I guess there goes your theory about me NOt enjoying the ENTIRE experience of parenthood LOL.
"Well either by WAH he provides YOUR respite...or by WAH he might as well be WOH. Which of your points do you mean to invalidate here?
Neither, because my dd is in elementary school full-day. I don't need a respite from being a SAHM when my dd is at school.
"However, I just don't need 7x24 to do the parenting thing well. So I see no reason to ditch my adult responsibility to get busy providing some bacon.."
What makes you think that providing the bacon is your adult responsibility but 24/7 parenting isn't? WHat makes you think that 24/7 parenting is in any way an example of *ditching* your adult responsibilities in the first place? Whose job do you think it is to care for and nuture your children, if not yours? A substitute???
"rather than leaving all that up to someone else and living with the resulting decreased standard of living or income security."
What makes you think that having a father as the primary breadwinner would necessarily result in a "decreased standard of living or income security?" Isn't this just a bit of a generalization? It certainly isn't true for my family LOL.
"Whose responsiblity is it to provide for MY children - today and tomorrow - anyway, if not mine?"
And again, Whose job do you think it is to care for and nuture your children, if not yours? A substitute???
Hmm, perhaps if you view unemployed moms who are simply "SAHM's" by default, to be the same as SAHM's who actuallly *choose* to be SAHM's.
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So you were a dcp but wouldn't trust your child with one now?
Hugs,
Bridget & Ethan (5)
Hugs,
Bridget & Ethan (5)
I like you, OTBM--hopefully you're well aware of that fact, so I am predisposed to give you the benefit of the doubt. But just as one example, your post describing your temple during the high holy days compared to the Christian churches ability...at least here in the US...to celebrate Christmas and Easter in relative safety DO NOT give the impression that you don't blame all of Christianity for this difference; on the contrary you seem to hold Christianity as an whole to blame for the difference.
You're a talented writer; you KNOW how to write to make your meaning obvious and you KNOW how to use words that don't generalize when that's not your intention. If you were someone else, I could probably accept that your generalizations aren't meant to be as general as they are written. But I know you and your writing well enough to know that you are more than capable of using words like some, more, most, not all and other kinds of "disclaimers" when such meaning is your intent. And they are all too often lacking in your writings about Christianity and Christians.
Did you miss the part where she didn't use a sippy cup?
"I would rather give her the experience of learning to drink from a cup with the best possible thing for her (BM) than to fill her with something she doesn't need in her diet....namely juice."
I didn't fill her with something she doesn't need in her diet....namely juice." I gave her SMALL amounts to experiment with.
"WOuld it bother you to see children walking around all day with a regular cup? Or is it just the sippy cups that bother you when they are walking around?"
Absolutely, it would bother me either way.
I didn;t expect her to be able to do something as complicated as drink from a cup on her first try. Did you miss the part where I said I let her experiment with small amounts of liquid for several weeks, pehaps even months?
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