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If you hadn't had kids...
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm |
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Dd had to have *formula* in the hospital because she was underweight and my milk didn't come in for a few days.. am I a bad mommy too? LOL
*Bush's faith-based initiatives - he's given millions of our tax dollars thru the Dept. of H & HS to Christian organizations, including Pat Robertson's
*Bush's speech at Bob Jones UNiversity (bans interracial dating)
*Bush wanting to amend the COnstitution to ban gay marriage
*Bush's appointment of the 11th Cir judge as a reward for support of that Alabama Sup. Ct. Judge who posted the 10 Commandments
*the war in Iraq
I just don't understand how any non-Christian in our country can even feel comfortable in their own skin these past four yrs. They'd be justified in not paying taxes! Some Christians are even demanding Bush do more in exchange for their money. So, it's great that you've raised this issue and, don't leave angry and exhausted. Go to the Current Debates board instead!
My middle child was born in AUgust and will be 3. Will your younger son be 3 in August too?
A dcp isn't a teacher. Have trouble saying what you mean? Or are you one of those posters whose debate strategy is to make up new stuff as required. Well anyway.
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Either you need refuge from children - or you don't. So you are either lying, or you're in denial.
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No, it isn't. Even when they say it is. Or even when you rephrase things to say that. Its s always part of parenthood. Not everyone is like you and needs to limit themselves to experiencing only one facet of parenthood. You are the one doing the escaping actually...in positive fact.
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No you aren't. My husband and I are doing that. You don't experience the entire range. Someone else can't experience it FOR you. This is remedial reality.
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Well if you are a Mother and you want to experience the whole spectrum of parenting and raising a child, you actually have to do that - go out and actually provide the bacon. If you limit yourself to just cooking it...you aren't experiencing any ENTIRE anything.
>>My dd didn't need more money, she needed one-on-one interaction with an ACTUAL PARENT (not a substitute) on a full-time basis, to be bf (on demand from the actual source) for 3 years until she was ready to wean herself, to be in her own home environment on a full-time basis (not a substitute dc environment), to be homeschooled by a parent that has also been a real teacher, etc.>>
No kid needs what you think your child needs, thats for sure. Mommy may be another thing. Curious though...why would you view any adult in your child's life who isn't a parent - as a substitute parent? Very odd view. Not to mention...limitted. For the child. And I'm sure for you too. At what age do you expect the child to outgrow this ... condition. At what age were you first able to relate to other adults as something other than substitute parents? Do you still hold this view? Is homeschooling about sparing your child the need to encounter "substitute" sibblings? So. Did you have a home birth? Cause if you didn't, I'm envisionning you raising this child in the neo-nate wing of the hospital where the child was born...so the child could remain in the (first and only) home environment she'd be able to handle. Apparently...adjustment is not your child's strong suit...and you've made it clear...you've accomodated that from the beginning...as a priority. Oh, and why would you subject your child to an education by any other than a "real" teacher. Which is apparently something you were to children in the past...but not to your own child.
<> Actually, I agree with that statment entirely. If my children turn out to be Harvard-educated pediatric neurosurgeons, I will take some of the credit and that includes in large part my influence during the daytime.
<> I've never loved work (and I used to be a lifeguard), just enjoyed some jobs over the yrs. You are very fortunate.
<> I agree. I sah, but not because I love it. I do it because I love my children, and that's the way I choose to mother them. When they were infants, the best I could hope for was to enjoy the day, not so much love it. I've heard some sahms IRL say they love it. I'm close, but not quite there yet.
Could you be more specific? We are talking Harold Robbins here, lol.
Actually, I think there was a teenage daughter who murdered her lover, who also happened to be her mother's lover. Plus lots of alcohol, cheesy sex, and some attempted blackmail involving photos of compromising positions.
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