If you hadn't had kids...

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If you hadn't had kids...
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:34pm
And your dh made enough $$ to support both of you comfortably, do you think you would be working?

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 12:42pm
The point is in 20 years, after two completely opposing ways of being raised, we will be able to put Mondo's daughter next to your daughter and see virtually no difference in the two. That's the big picture.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 12:53pm
Beautiful, just beautiful.

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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:06pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:12pm

ITA.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:22pm
"I believe choices DO matter"

Me too!!!

"I don't think it matters in the long run, and there are no guarantees."

You don't think *what* matters in the long run? Didn't you just state that you believe that choices DO matter? So do they or don't they? And which ones? BTW, I agree with you on one thing: there are no guarantees. However, I didn't choose to bf, SAH, co-sleep, adopt an attachment parenting philosophy, etc. because of a *guarantee*.

I did it because I was/am simply following my God Given (not a Christian God mind you) Natural Instinct and Innate Sense of Idealism. Again IMO, *natural* choices simply promote *optimal bonding and attachment* where as *artificial* choices promote *detachment*. It's as simple as that.

"so why you stake your parenting life on them, is beyond me."

I'm not staking my parenting life on anything other than natural instinct and idealism. I don't need any guarentees, I already have what I want: to have ideals and to live by them.

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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:29pm

"I did it because I was/am simply following my God Given (not a Christian God mind you) Natural Instinct and Innate Sense of Idealism. Again IMO, *natural* choices simply promote *optimal bonding and attachment* where as *artificial* choices promote *detachment*. It's as simple as that. "


My mothering instincts ran very counter to, for instance, attachment parenting.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:50pm

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 1:51pm
Great post.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 2:00pm
"I asked what on earth you would put in a cup when you were extended/exclusively (your words) b-feeding. For someone who claimed to do both....a cup and whatever was inside, totally contradicting to your natural is best."

A contradiction, how so? BTW, which do you consider to be unnatural: the cup or the juice? I don't consider either to be unnatural.

"The debate between natural and artificial...is not clear."

It's clear to me.

"Artificial does not always make it bad, natural is not always good."

I agree with you to a point, but this isn't rocket science LOL. Of course, you can't give an infant peanuts, eventhough they're natural.

"In the long run, no their is not an inherent different between ff and b-milk, daycare, medicated and unmedicated births."

Why did you say "in the long run" then?

"Interesting comments from someone who does not work outside of the home, has a dh who does most of the cooking and his own laundry, has a dd who does her own laundry and who has said that you fill your days with things YOU want to do. Very interesting. I forget do you volunteer?"

Interesting why??? I never said that I was a SAH housewife. BTW, just for the record, I am a SAH MOM, not a SAH housewife. In other words, I SAH because I'm a MOM, not a housewife LOL. And yes, I do volunteer. I am a former teacher and I generally volunteer 3x a week in my dd's classroom during the school year.

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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 2:25pm

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Last time I checked....cups are NOT natural, they are artificially made...they do not naturally occur in nature.

PumpkinAngel

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