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Registered: 03-29-2007
I'm so HAPPY I found this board!!
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:33pm

Hi --


I'm new to the board and I just wanted to ask a quesiton that has been weighing heavily on my mind.....


DH thinks I am just being "lazy" and do not want to return to work, but the fact of the matter is that I am a control freak (yes i will admit it) and I want to be the one raising my child til I feel he is the appropriate age (1 yo) to go to daycare. My dilemnas with returning to work are that I want to be in control and not leave my son, I nurse full-time (and do not have a big enough milk supply in the freezer), I'm on medicaid (for insurance)and worry that if I return to part-time I will lose my coverage, and if I go to full-time I would need immediate health care. So with this said, I sound like I'm a real piece of work....I would like to come up with a solution so that DH doesn't have to work 2 jobs (1 FT and 1 PT)...


What does everyone think? And does anyone have advice on leaving your little ones to a daycare or MIL to watch??


TIA
-Lindsey

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:51pm

No offense intended, but seriously if your dh needs to work 2 jobs, you should SERIOUSLY reconsider going back to work. I mean, he works PT, so can't you take over the PT job money and work when your dh is home? It's not a perfect solution, but it's better than the damage you might be doing to your marriage (if your dh is to the point of calling you "lazy" that's not a good place, y'know?)

At least CONSIDER it from his point of view....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 8:33am
You're on medicaid?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 9:46am

It's pretty obvious if you are on medicaid that you are not in the best financial situation.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 9:51am

It's a shame that you didn't plan all of this out before getting pregnant really.


Now that you're in these circumstances, it's my opinion that you need to be quite careful about your medical insurance situation and make sure that you don't compromise it.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:22am
just nodding along at all the previous posters.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:25am
Me too.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:06am
Just wanted to add that your kid will probably qualify for free or reduced health insurance through your state's CHIP program.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:06am

<You're on medicaid?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:08am

Is that CHIP program available in all states.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:12am
I think so . . . but I'm not positive. Bush vetoed the bill to continue funding from the federal level though, so I'm not sure what's going on.

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