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I'm so HAPPY I found this board!!
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:33pm

Hi --


I'm new to the board and I just wanted to ask a quesiton that has been weighing heavily on my mind.....


DH thinks I am just being "lazy" and do not want to return to work, but the fact of the matter is that I am a control freak (yes i will admit it) and I want to be the one raising my child til I feel he is the appropriate age (1 yo) to go to daycare. My dilemnas with returning to work are that I want to be in control and not leave my son, I nurse full-time (and do not have a big enough milk supply in the freezer), I'm on medicaid (for insurance)and worry that if I return to part-time I will lose my coverage, and if I go to full-time I would need immediate health care. So with this said, I sound like I'm a real piece of work....I would like to come up with a solution so that DH doesn't have to work 2 jobs (1 FT and 1 PT)...


What does everyone think? And does anyone have advice on leaving your little ones to a daycare or MIL to watch??


TIA
-Lindsey

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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 11:02pm
I believe that it is.

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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 11:19pm


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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 11:20pm
Oops - I should have read the whole thread before posting :)

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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 11:40pm

I'm

 

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 4:32am
It's commonly referrd to as nursing in the US, too. I don't know of a single English-speaking country where "nursing" is not understood (in the context of having breastmilk stored) to mean breastfeeding. The American Heritage Dictionary certainly defines it that way (both as caring for patients and to suckle a child at the breast (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/nursing)).

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 4:46am
Thanks, I wasn't sure :)

 

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:00pm

Hi Lindsey! I'm new to ivillage and was checking out this board because I am expecting in August and would like to stay home with my baby for the first year as well. I was reading some of the replies to your post and was horrified and wanted to post some words of encouragement to you.


I worked in a day care when I was a teenager, and while yes, that was a while ago, I can't imagine they could have changed that much. I would feel so sorry for the babies there because with only one day care worker to 6 babies, she couldn't possibly give the babies the care that they required. They would cry and cry but the woman would be so busy doing feedings and clothes and diaper changes that she was unable to console them. Before you ladies start blasting me about your day care, yes, I'm sure that there are some that are wonderful, I just know what I saw.


Lindsey, if you have the option of your MIL watching the baby, that might be a good idea, at least while the baby is young. I don't know what your financial situation is like but if staying home for the first year is something that is important to you, I'm sure there might be something you can do to make everyone happy. You might have to watch another child or work an opposite shift than your DH. I know it's not ideal but nothing in life is easy. Sorry, but I don't know very much about medicaid, so I can't really give you any advice about that. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide!

Justine mommy to Wesley (12-2-99) & Eva (7-22-08)

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 11:12pm

My son was in dc at 3 months.

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 11:14pm
You know, I almost said that myself.
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 11:19pm
That's illegal in my state.