"I'm staying home to raise my kids"

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Registered: 10-24-2007
"I'm staying home to raise my kids"
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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 6:58pm

"I'm staying home for a few years

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Registered: 03-27-2003

seriously? you can't see why that's offensive? Because it implies that moms who work are NOT raising their kids -- which is BUNK. I'm raising Liza good or bad right or wrong great mom or crappy mom I"M raising her and so is her dad even though we do it from two separate homes. I raised her through her first five years even though she was in daycare -- I am responsible for her well being, her education, and her foundation in life. However, I'm not egotistical enough not to welcome to help and good advice from so many others who love her like her family, grandparents, daycare teachers, acting teachers, my partner, her dad's fiance, etc. etc... but none of them raise her. That honor or burden (however you want to look at it depending on which way the wind is blowing in Liza land) belongs to me and to my ex husband.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Lol....good luck with this one :)
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seriously? you can't see why that's offensive? Because it implies that moms who work are NOT raising their kids -- which is BUNK


But I don't think that it does.

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Registered: 03-27-2003

look, you seem like an interesting fair and balanced person but 99.9% of that time that statement is made my a brand spanking new mom so in WUvVVV with widdle snookums and they know EVERYTHING about raising children and they march on here full of indignation that anyone could possible consider leaving said snookums to go off in the graven pursuit of money (which they probably spend on manicures and those fancy cars they all drive). The post inevitabley contains something to the effect of "I just couldn't STAND to have daycare raise my child" after which a collective sigh is heaved and the working moms some of whom have parented their own widdle snookums right up to adulthood have to explani that day cares do not in fact RAISE children (believe me if they did Liza would still be there and THEY'd be saving for her college bill not me but I digress)

so another stealthy way for some of the more militant SAHMS to sneak in a good uppercut is to gently sniff about 'staying home to raise children" which is just another way of saying "I am and you're not nyah nyah nyah nyah"

the fact that you CAN"T see that to me, actually shows me that you're one of the more reasonable and sane ones LOL...

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In a situation where a father were widowed, and he explained to his employer that he was going to take a few years out from his career to raise his kids, I don't think that anyone would jump all over him for using those words.
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Registered: 03-27-2003

I kinda thought I explained that. Here it's all about context and how it's used and it's used here SO often and we have this discussion SO much that any mention of the "i raise my kids" line is a real hot button here.

Ah yes the sainted widowed father who will be lauded for being so "good" to his kids -- funny how widowed mothers or divorced mothers seldom get that kind of adulation LOL

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-04-2007

Because it implies that WM's are not raising their kids.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Well, good luck getting them raised in a few years!
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Registered: 10-05-2007
IMO, it's all about context.

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Ducky

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Registered: 07-05-2005
I'm not offended by it. I can say, "

                Jen

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