I thought this was an interesting artcle.
Dh and I always remind ourselves that we taught the girls (and now Dylan) how to questions and research what they have been told to see if it stands up. It made for very interesting teen years but has paid off in adults who don't blindly go along with what they hear and read.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
I worry when articles like this come out because bad parents get to use them as the reason their kids turned out badly ~ as in "See, it WAS the DNA, not our parenting."
Thanks for posting this.
"Are you going so far as to say, no matter what we do, our children will turn out the way they were destined to?"
I don't think that doesn't matter at all what we do.
It sounded to me that what both texigan and the article were saying is that parenting does not guarentee a certain outcome.
That must be difficult indeed, you will be in my thoughts.
I do think that you make some very good points besides. For the bulk of kids, I think that it is much easier to tear down than to build. IOW, given decent circumstances they will come out as nature intended. With most of them, no matter how much you go nuts with the super-parenting, the kid will not go to MIT, but if you beat and abuse them, they may end up in the gutter.
With the vulnerable kids, as you point out, the stakes may be significantly higher.
>Are you going so far as to say, no matter what we do, our children will turn out the way they were destined to?<
Sometimes. Otherwise, how else to explain why 2 siblings of a family of 3 children turn out fine but the 3rd one doesn't? They all have the same parents and grew up in the same house. They all had the same sahm and wohd.