I thought this was an interesting artcle.
You think demanding chores of a child is related to the child's gaining admission to MIT or related to having a SAHP for that matter?
My idea of hands on is quite different. Then, at the same time, my idea of a high bar is not expecting admission to Oxford. Dh was actually admitted to Harvard back in the day, but chose to go elsewhere.
If it's genetics, then all parents are treating (or mistreating) all of their children equally.
Not at all.
So what was your point regarding hands on parenting and the family with 5 kids at MIT or Harvard?
As far as the catty remark about popularity, that was obviously not the point at all. It is possible to set a high bar that has nothing to do with the kind of narrow goals like admission to a certain type of school or success in a popularity contest.
In dh's case, his parents valued education, at least enough to pay lip service to the idea. They were pretty typical immigrant parents. Their idea of success was to have their boys become lawyers, doctors or engineers. I doubt they had much idea about the differences between various colleges. By the time dh applied to graduate programs, his parents were long out of his educational process anyway. He applied to several graduate programs, like most people I imagine, and was accepted by all of them. The one he picked had a better department than Harvard for what dh wanted to do. IOW, Harvard was his fall-back, not his first choice. Dh never applied to MIT, he is not the engineering type.
"It's possible to get good grades at certain highschools and even do really well on SATs/ACTs without being smart."
How was that catty?
You'd be really surprised.
Would you like chicken or egg?