I thought this was an interesting artcle.
The article goes along with something else that I read (can't remember where). It was a study, if I remember correctly. The conculsion of the study said that it's the child and not the parent that determines how the parent raises the child.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Well said and so very true.
First time poster here, but wanted to comment!
Kidlutions: Solutions for Kids
Hi and welcome to the board. Where were you 28 years ago when our 2dd, Erica, was born. I sure could have used you. Can I pick your brain? What do you recommend for a 3 yo who insists on pouring all the condiments all over the patio? And now syrup on the dog. Pit bulls do not deserve their bad reputation. 3 yos on the other hand.
Well, I say what a little Einstein you have on your hands, who is conducting all kinds of experiments of logic and also, pushing the envelope to see how many shades of purple, red or fuschia his/her caregiver can turn.
Yes. We. Did.
As the mother of the original anti-flow kid, yes, she very likely is getting it. That passage made me perk up too, lol, and I do see some of it now that dd is getting close to adulthood.
A while back she was talking to me about how her cousins mindlessly follow every opinion and desire of their parents. So I piped up that although they took it too far, it was not necessarily bad to seek or heed the opinion or advice of a parent. So dd comes back with, yes, but at least you usually know what you are talking about (unlike her aunt and uncle, in dd's opinion mind). To which I counter, how would you know? She gives me "the look" and says, well, unlike my cousins I check what my parents tell me against other sources.
You asked me elsewhere what makes me smile. That made me smile. Of course, I was the one who taught her to check info against several sources.
As Joy says: "there is baby proof; there is no Alex proof". I don't know why we are surprised at him. He is, after all, a member of our family. :) We just can't figure out how he got the fridge door open so quietly that none of us (3 adults and his 10 yo uncle) heard it. You'd think that at least Dylan (the 10 yo) would have heard the fridge being open. He's like a cat about the can opener with the fridge.
As for the 28 yo. She is doing great, especially since she found out what was wrong with her about 5 years ago. Growing up, we didn't know and just winged it. It turns out she was born with clinical depression, OCD, and social anxiety. What we knew, was that she didn't do well with dc, had to taught how to hug, had a personal space 6' in diameter, was extremely shy (wouldn't look people in the eye and absolutely wouldn't speak to anyone she didn't know well) and had to have a very rigid routine. I couldn't say that we were going to run errands to stores A, B, C, and D but then actually went to stores C, B, A, and D. I had to learn to stop and put the errands in order before telling her. We ended up homeschooling her until 6th grade and after that, she went back and forth between public school and homeschooling (grades 7th, 8th, 9th, at home; 12th as independent study; 10th and 11th in public school). She now takes anti depression medications, has been with her so for 10 years, and is pregnant with their 1st (maybe only) child.
BTW, a little bit about us: I have 4 children--3 girls and one boy. The 3 yo is my grandson by our first, Joy, who posts as Funkymamajoy. She also has a 15 mo girl, Lindsay, and is pregnant with their 3rd (and last) due in January. They are living with us while looking for work. They moved back to CA from AZ when she finished her accounting degree. Her goal is to get her CPA license here. Her dh is still in school (online so where they live isn't an issue).Erica is our 2nd. I've posted about her above.
Angela is our 3rd. She is living about 100 miles north of us (about a 90 minute drive). She is working and going to college, living with 2 of her best friends.
Dylan is our 4th and only boy. He is 20, 17, and 13 years younger than his sisters. He has also been a challenge to raise but, thankfully, not like Erica. He is way too intelligent for his own good and we have to make sure that he doesn't get bored. That's when he gets into trouble. He is bored now because it's summer. I don't know who is more happy that school is only 2 weeks away--him or the rest of us. He loves being around people so having his older sister move in with us has been great. He gets to stay home in the morning while I go to work (work appreciates him not coming as well :) and she takes him to the Boys and Girls Club in the afternoons.
Anyway, I didn't mean to post our entire life history but there it is.