I thought this was an interesting artcle.
?? Where did all of that come from?
In the case I was talking about the child that didn't turn out fine was the 2nd one, not the 3rd. The first and 3rd children turn out to be wonderful adults, husbands and fathers. The 2nd child, not so much.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
"They all have the same parents and grew up in the same house."
No they didn't. Each younger child was born into a house with more children than their older sibling had and older (and presumably more experienced...or perhaps more exhausted) parents than their older siblings had. Family dynamics change with the addition of subsequent children, so the "same house" isn't quite accurate. I know for sure that the house my 18 month old is growing up in is quite a different kind of house than the one my first born grew up in.
I can only tell you what friends told me- WHEN THEY WERE THERE. I can only tell you what professors from Harvard told me. The class might "officially" have a big name Prof attached for the weekly three one hour lectures (for which they may show up for a few), but the office hours are staffed by grad students, the labs are staffed by grad students, the grading is done by computer or grad students............
Generally, classes taught at excellent private small colleges are taught by the actual Professors, who staff their own office hours and grade their own papers. There are no graduate students.