Interesting SAH vs WOH observation ...

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Interesting SAH vs WOH observation ...
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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 7:20pm

I have several friends that are very attached to their kids, in almost a *needy* way.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 8:35am
Very insightful.
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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 8:51am
That is true. It just seems a bit kinder to say it is personality as opposed to saying that these people are totally messed in the head ;).

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 8:55am

I think you are right.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 9:29am
Totally, totally agree with your first paragraph. I think there is correlation, but not causation.
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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 10:22am
I agree with you~
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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 10:45am
That is true. It just seems a bit kinder to say it is personality as opposed to saying that these people are totally messed in the head ;).



I prefer: At a different stage of self identity development.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:00am

Food for thought. Thanks for posting it.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:02am
I think you are correct....

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:34am
I think I would prefer just being told I am messed in the head, to be honest, if the other choice was being told that I was at a different stage of self identity development. Even someone who has no clue what that last one means, can figure out that it is condescending ;), however true it may be.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 2:16pm

I don't think it's condescending because we are all at different stages. It's a life thing, a human condition and it applies to every single last one of us. Identity development never ends, it's with us through the entire life cycle.

Calling someone messed in the head sounds rude, and inaccurate. That's the statement that sounds condescending to me, because it sounds superior. You would be more likely to call someone messed in the head only when they are more messed in the head than you are, or if they are close to you and you are just teasing them. It also suggests something is "wrong" with the person, whereas being at a different stage of development does not mean something is wrong. It's a description, not a slam.

Say not, 'I have found the truth,' but rather, 'I have found a truth.' -Kahlil Gibran



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