Interesting SAH vs WOH observation ...

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Interesting SAH vs WOH observation ...
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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 7:20pm

I have several friends that are very attached to their kids, in almost a *needy* way.

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 1:01am
Thanks. It's really all part of my own self development, or attempt at self development :)

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:57pm

Harmony, you just fascinate me with your knowledge of this sort of thing.

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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 5:00pm

I personally know more WOH parents who fall into this category.

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Tue, 08-17-2010 - 11:33am

hi,


I am more of a lurker but thought i'd chime in about this topic. I'm a WAHM -- part time doing the same job as before I had my DDs (6 yr., 5 yr.).


One thought after reading your post is that I know so many people who are the same about their jobs. They have a love/hate relationship with it but also wouldn't change or leave it (i.e. stayed in it after they had kids).


Frankly I think that there are some people who are more sensitive to, or dramatic about, their situation. And I agree that the attachment issue can seem like they need more balance. But anyway, I thought I'd point out that people can be like that about their full time jobs too. For what ever that's worth...

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 9:25pm
Now I have lines from Oscar Wilde running through my head.
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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 5:56pm
Well based on that, if I ever see an Earnestness contest, I'm entering! I would not win Most Evolved, but I might win Most Improved Between the Ages of 30 and 40 in the evolved category.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 5:33pm
Yeah, I think you have even me beat in the earnestness department, lol. WINK! No problem, though, I am so incredibly evolved at this point that I am unflappable. Ohmmmmmmmmmm

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 3:14pm
Oh whoops. I usually miss the winky's. The serious side of my identity development gets the better of me sometimes. Some might call that messed in the head, it's more likely a personality problem. (wink)

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 2:23pm
There was a winky in my post, I know, I know.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 2:16pm

I don't think it's condescending because we are all at different stages. It's a life thing, a human condition and it applies to every single last one of us. Identity development never ends, it's with us through the entire life cycle.

Calling someone messed in the head sounds rude, and inaccurate. That's the statement that sounds condescending to me, because it sounds superior. You would be more likely to call someone messed in the head only when they are more messed in the head than you are, or if they are close to you and you are just teasing them. It also suggests something is "wrong" with the person, whereas being at a different stage of development does not mean something is wrong. It's a description, not a slam.

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