Interesting take on SAH/WOH/parenting

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Interesting take on SAH/WOH/parenting
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 2:35pm

I don't entirely agree with everything the writer says here, but I do think she makes some extremely valid points. Thoughts?

::: I Hate David Dellifield. The One From Ada, Ohio.

This past week was Spring Break and toward the end, somehow my ex and my nanny fell out of the picture, and I was doing a lot of taking care of the kids, which, I have said before, is not what I’m great at. I wish I were. I tried for four years to be a stay-at-home mom, only to discover that I am not meant to do that.

So, in a moment of innocent desperation, I wrote on Twitter: ��No school today and the nanny's on vacation. A whole day with the kids gets so boring: all intergalactic battles and no intellectual banter.”

I almost didn’t post that Twitter because it’s so banal.

But, in just seconds, because that’s how Twitter works, there was a firestorm of men telling me that I’m a bad mom. Really. Yes.

Here’s one from David Dellifield:
“@penelopetrunk sorry your kids are a burden, send them to OH, we'll enjoy them for who they are” :::

.... and the article continues here:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:12pm

we played with our neighborhood friends since we didn't have any cousins nearby.

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:14pm
Also, I really fail to see what is wrong with allowing kids to have fun that is theirs alone. What is the benefit of parents insisting on participating in every little thing their children do.
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:16pm

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but your post seems to say the opposite....can you clarify?


as i've said, never played in the dirt -- and been a pretty darned good parent -- Oh and I have a dd that LOVES country music just like me and a ds who loves Heavy metal just like his dad....we find nothing wrong with that.


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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:16pm

Uhm, not for nothing, but baking is both messy and creative. What on earth is wrong with baking?

Is your home business related to products for getting "creative" with your kids?

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:20pm
Yes, same here. We did stuff with our parents, but mostly joining in their work/activities. That is why we can all cook, lay bricks and stucco a wall nicely.
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:23pm

"kids growing up to fast and baking at a young age"

Yep you figured it out. The problem with the world is kids baking. LOL. Wish I would have know that 20+ years ago, I was such an evil mother I made Christmas cookies with my 2 and 4 year olds. Even have picture of it. I guess I am lucky that it did not cause them to grow up to be axe murderers.

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:26pm

What is exactly the problem with children learning to bake at a young age? My kids always enjoyed the creative process, enjoyed the feeling of competence that came with producing something they and others liked to eat...they don't "need" to cook at age four, but what is wrong with it? What is wrong with a child being exposed to sophisticated music along with the more simple music that appeals to kids? What is wrong with kids actually admiring and wanting to imitate their children instead of the other way around?

I didn't mind getting dirty as a kid, and I don't mind getting dirty now. None of my kids minded getting dirty. I think it's a personality thing. My kids are also "outside kids." Even now, as teens, as soon as homework and chores are completed, they are off playing baseball and basketball...with other kids.

I haven't had much trouble with them not coming to me when problems creep up.

And at what point in life are the "creative" years supposed to be over? I am 53 and as creative as ever. I am slightly less messy than I used to be.

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:28pm
Everyone is different. Different people parent differently.
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:32pm
People are different. Different people parent differently.
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 6:33pm
So is gardening.

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