Introducing myself

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Introducing myself
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 5:13pm
Okay, well...my name is Valerie. I'm not a parent, although at times I feel like one (I have to take care of my sister). But I am a SAH of sorts. I'm disabled. Not to mention, I have social anxiety. I like to stay alone, most of the time. I do the domestic things. I have to pull my own weight. I do get my own paychecks. Of course, it's below the poverty line. But it's something. I think SAHMS deserve pay. More than I make. After all, I'm making money to stay home. But most stay-at-homes make no money for the work they do.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:52am

Hi Valerie!

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:07am


Just out of curiousity...compensation from whom?

Tina

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:23am
I wasn't being at all serious. ;)

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:23am

And I disagree. Having and raising children is just part of life. In some ways, no different than nurturing my marriage or taking care of the house. In other words, it just is. Yes, it is work (especially if you have child like Erica or Katie's Elizabeth) but unlike a job, you can't just quit when it gets hard. Parenting is an 18+ year commitment. And the compensations come when the children are grown and living independent and successful lives of the own. Getting grandchildren doesn't hurt either.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:30am

Having and raising children is not 'just part of life', maybe years ago when that's what women were bred to do, but not in today's society.

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:45am

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:57am

I've noticed it does get incredibly quiet in here at times, lol. :)


It's different (to me) because there was little to no choice.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:05pm

Nope I dont' understand.


To me by that description I see the exact opposite :)

Tina

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:15pm

There was a time in US history where women were not allowed to have jobs, their role in life was defined as soon as gender was determined.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:19pm
:)

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