Introducing myself

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Introducing myself
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 5:13pm
Okay, well...my name is Valerie. I'm not a parent, although at times I feel like one (I have to take care of my sister). But I am a SAH of sorts. I'm disabled. Not to mention, I have social anxiety. I like to stay alone, most of the time. I do the domestic things. I have to pull my own weight. I do get my own paychecks. Of course, it's below the poverty line. But it's something. I think SAHMS deserve pay. More than I make. After all, I'm making money to stay home. But most stay-at-homes make no money for the work they do.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 8:16am

It's funny. (Not really; just a figure of speech.) I call them mother and father, now. But when I used to live with both of them...the things I'd say weren't nearly as pleasant. I had spunk, that's for sure. But at least it kept my mother from breaking me.

I did call father "dad" once upon a time, but I watched him age to be a man I can't seem to honor. And the way my grandmother speaks highly of him just makes him look more (I'm sorry to say) pathetic. But at least granddad knows what he's like. Not the worst he can be (we know what a real bad parent can be like, even if we never had the displeasure of having one), but certain not the angel that she makes him out to be.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 8:21am
I'm bi. I know I am. I've never been with a woman, sexually. It's mostly thanks to growing up in a stereotypical society where it was encouraged for a woman to date men. But I have done some stuff with women. And I know that I could love a person, regardless of their gender or other things that would make an intolerant person scream. I know I have a few prejudices to work past, but I wouldn't let them get in the way of love. I've been through so much in my life, it's caused me to become like a rose. Thorns and all. But my truest belief in love sounds so kind and pure, it just might be a white one.
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 8:23am

having children was definitely "part of life" for me IN ADDITION TO my FT wohm job as a teacher. I've been a wohm for almost 17 years -- and my "babies" (LOL!) are now 16, 14, 12 and a 10 year old step-dd.


many of us are able to do both jobs -- and do them well.


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 9:36am

They'll always be our babies, no matter what age! :)


"many of us are able to do both jobs -- and do them well."


Absolutely!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 9:56am

"And quite frankly, people in the US today could use a little bit more *labor* in their lives. ;) "


Oh really? Why don't you WOH 45 hours a week, plus coparent two kids, and keep a household up, and then get back to me. Being a SAHM of one baby may not be enough labor for you.


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 10:11am

Lol, I'll get right on that for ya. ;)


Seriously, though, you could be right.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 10:58am
Why do you feel in general that Americans don't labor enough?

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:21am

Sure, I'll answer your question first. :)


There is an obesity epidemic in this country and I believe that sedentary lifestyle is a prime culprit.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:27am

Okay thanks.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:36am

"Welcome to the board."


Thanks!

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