Introducing myself

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Introducing myself
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 5:13pm
Okay, well...my name is Valerie. I'm not a parent, although at times I feel like one (I have to take care of my sister). But I am a SAH of sorts. I'm disabled. Not to mention, I have social anxiety. I like to stay alone, most of the time. I do the domestic things. I have to pull my own weight. I do get my own paychecks. Of course, it's below the poverty line. But it's something. I think SAHMS deserve pay. More than I make. After all, I'm making money to stay home. But most stay-at-homes make no money for the work they do.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 2:02pm

This is what was said:


Me:
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:21pm
I just disagree.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:28pm

"And if someone truely doesn't want children and do not take the necessary steps to insure that."


But what if they do take the necessary steps and it fails?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:41pm

You are splitting hairs here.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:45pm

I'm not trying to split hairs, I'm honestly not.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:52pm

No that is now what I believe sex is only for producing offspring.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:57pm

"Well we agree on something.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 4:56pm

I still had no trouble following her point. And I agree that if more people kept the full range of consequences in mind when they had sex that there would be fewer parents who view parenting as a sacrifice. Procreation is inexoriably tied to sex.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 5:20pm
Very well said.

Tina

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 5:26pm

Viewing parenting as having sacrifices has nothing to do with whether a pregnancy was intentional or not.

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Sandi--Mommy to Ryan 7/24/07


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