Introducing myself

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Introducing myself
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 5:13pm
Okay, well...my name is Valerie. I'm not a parent, although at times I feel like one (I have to take care of my sister). But I am a SAH of sorts. I'm disabled. Not to mention, I have social anxiety. I like to stay alone, most of the time. I do the domestic things. I have to pull my own weight. I do get my own paychecks. Of course, it's below the poverty line. But it's something. I think SAHMS deserve pay. More than I make. After all, I'm making money to stay home. But most stay-at-homes make no money for the work they do.

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:36pm

Since no birth control is 100% effective (if they were, we wouldn't have had Dylan), there is always the possibility that having sexual intercourse will result in a pregnancy. And anyone who doesn't factor that into the equation has their head in the sand and is thinking with the wrong part of their boby.

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The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:27am
Oh, I wouldn't say the association is a strict rule - more like a guideline :-)
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:33am

There was a time in US history where women were not allowed to have jobs,

Really? When was that?

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:43am
Because parenting is different from being a daycare provider.

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:45am

What's up with the personal comments? The only way you can accept disagreement is by making personal comments about us or accuse us of being "wound too tight?"

How would you respond if your every statement was dismissed as "New Mommy Syndome"? Would you find that to be a fair debate tactic? Then why is it fair for you to decide we have some ulterior agenda or personality flaw because we disagree with you?

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 4:17am

"... I would barely make enough money to cover daycare costs so it doesn't make sense for me to WOH."

I used to think like that, but I think it is wrong. If you WOH anyway, once the daycare cost goes down (which it will once the kid goes to school), you are likely to be in a better position professionally than if you had been home all those years.

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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 4:19am
Chuck-e-Cheese is scary, so is McDonald's.
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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 7:08am

I think that would be more true if I had a career rather than a job that holds little advancement.


I did, however, run into my boss at lunch the other day and got some child care info from her (she has a daughter with two children, one born the day after mine) and if I can get something arranged I think I'll start back part time, if only for my own

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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 7:36am

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however, this is not always true -- in cases where the parents can't adjust their work hours, they may still need coverage before and/or after school.

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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 8:34am
Not really, since you will get annual raises, even if it is not a "career" job, as well as have a chance to contribute to your retirement etc.

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