I think I am falling into staying at home.
Based on the info you have provided, if I was in your situation here is what I think I would do.
I would stay home for a year, living on DH's salary and the savings (all while trying to minimize unnecessary expenses so you use as little of the savings as possible).
don't knock aftercare -- the single greatest invention in the history of parentin g-- at Liza's afterschool program they have to FINISH THEIR HOMEWORK before they can play -- that means every single day she comes home with all her home work done.
Yes. We. Did.