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it's all in what works for your family
| Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm |
I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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I've had far more luck encouraging my dd to try new things than I had with the 1-bite rule. There was no huge drama; she simply wouldn't do it (or took such a miniscule "bite" that it was pointless).
With the prevalence of eating disorders these days, I think that getting into control battles over food is a risky thing.
Replace the two bite rule with any other house rule and if what you say is true, there is no way (outside of abuse, which we all agree isn't going to happen here) there isn't any way to force a child to follow any house rule.
I don't agree, through cooperation and respect both adults and children are willing to do things they don't want to do, without physical force or abuse.
PumpkinAngel
then there's an underlying problem that has to be addressed before you can have any hope of making it work. if the kid *respects* the parents, he won't refuse--habitually, anyway.
i don't think that "rule" is the right term or framework to define this. for example, it isn't a "rule" in our house that one doesn't
Oh it's much easier....because they have realized that the two bite rule is a very good rule to have, so they now it's automatic.
PumpkinAngel
I'm a bit lost here...where are you getting that the consquences are all the same, all the time?
PumpkinAngel
Again, please see post 281 for the answers or 297, 300 for more details and so forth.....
PumpkinAngel
you figure out why the kid either doesn't understand why he or she should do something, or why he or she considers you so unworthy of his or her respect, and you fix the problem.
you and a few others seem to think that people who have raised their kids to have a respectful relationship with their parents are the authoritarians. to my thinking, it is clearly much more authoritarian to
Thanks for the info.
PumpkinAngel
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