it's all in what works for your family

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it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:29pm

My child isn't disrespectful. She doesn't disrupt dinner, or rant or rage for days over not wanting to try something we don't want her to eat. She simply couldn't (or in your view, wouldn't) do it. She was honestly distressed by the rule, and it was not effective at all in our real goal--getting her to eat a wider variety of foods.

Respect goes two ways. I respect my child enough not to get into a power battle with her over her autonomy over her own bodily functions by insisting she eat something she doesn't want to.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:29pm

and when the kid leaves the plastic bag he uses as a substitute for the backpack where he left the backpack, you take that too? and the next plastic bag? and the next? the kid

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:31pm

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:33pm

Do you understand the concept that kids are different, that different rules work for different kids, and that somebody who is a really picky eater might really have an aversion to certain foods?

I conceded long ago in this thread that the 2-bite rule might work fine for many, perhaps even most, kids. It didn't work for mine, and I have yet to hear you or anyone else explain to me how the rule could be enforced for a child who won't do it--at 17 or any other age.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:35pm

I think I spend more time reminding them about teeth brushing, but that just be an automatic from me at bedtime more than anything.


I do ask about homework, mostly have you done xyz, do you want help studying, do you need supplies...that type of thing, but doing it and turning it in (the hard part for my oldest, lol) is their thing.


It's interesting, I was thinking about this last night....there are many things that are simply automatic in our house, I watched it last night...they come home, their backpacks are put in the same spot we used to put their baby bags, shoes in the same place and so forth....they are very much creatures of routine.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:38pm
I'm still confused about how you would make your kid take two bites of something if he adamantly refused. You say that he wouldn't be able to do anything else until he took his two bites. Does that mean he sits at the dinner table until he takes the two bites? What if the kid refuses to sit there? What if he throws a fit?
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:38pm

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How is the two bite rule for trying new foods a control thing but letting a child limit their food intake to whatever they want, not a control thing?


I would think that teaching a child to try new foods (two bite rule) and to be open minded about the possiblity of liking new foods would be a good thing...not a bad thing?




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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:39pm

if it got to the point it was a health hazard I'd step in. if it got to the point she had a cavity or two and had to undergo fillings then I think my point would be made. fortunately it hasn't gotten to that point yet.


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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:40pm

Very good points.


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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:43pm

<<What is the consequence if, after you remind him of the rule, your child does not comply?>>


AGAIN, I remind them of the rule again and AGAIN, that's about as far as it have ever gone.

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