it's all in what works for your family

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it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:45pm

exactly.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:45pm

Teaching kids to do the right thing takes more time, energy, and creativity than just telling them what to do. *I* do have the time, energy, and creativity for that, and it doesn't result in any of the things you're claiming. Quite the contrary.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:45pm

I don't get it either and clearly it addressed the question a couple of hundred posts ago in regards to actual real life events.


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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:47pm
Making someone sit at the table until they eat their two bites sounds likes a major battle to me.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:47pm

I agree and go back to what I said a couple of 100

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:51pm

I don't agree, through respect and cooperation, yes you can.


Try looking at a rule that doesn't have an object to remove as a consequence...what do you do then when they break the family/house rule?

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:52pm
That's what I'm thinking. I imagine it's like the anecdotal stories I've heard from some people about having to sit at the table until their plate was finished. For some people that worked just fine. They'd stuff everything down and move on whether or not they were full. Some people battled that rule like crazy and ended up sitting at the table until bedtime. Neither option sounds appealing. Some kids battle food rules, some kids battle car seats, some kids battle bed times. Don't most kids have some kind of rule that they battle every time? Wouldn't most parents figure out a better way of handling it?
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:52pm

I control what foods are in my house. That's the part I can control. My child controls what she eats from those foods. That's the part I can't control, so I don't try to.

As I've said a number of times, I have no problem with the 2-bite rule if the child is willing to do it. My problem comes in when the child isn't willing. Then it's the parent trying to make the child eat something she doesn't want to. I certainly don't see how that's helpful, and with all the eating disorders around, it could even be risky.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:53pm

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As have mine....so what's so complicated here?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:53pm

so a social hazard isn't worth the effort. she could lose friends and alienate people with slime teeth, and you'd hold out for an abscess? (oh, and hope that a cavity or two would suffice.)—because….? are you saying that the payoff is being able to skip any involvement up until you are able to chime in with "i told you so"? if not, what is it?

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