it's all in what works for your family

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it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:09pm

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That's exactly how I feel about teaching children to try two bites of a new food, it did take more time, energy and patience for sure...because our family believes that trying two bites of a new food before saying one doesn't like that food is the right thing....and if I have to remind them of that rule, and spend time...that's okay, even if someone states on a debate board years later that time and energy is nagging.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:12pm

Nothing is complicated. Nowhere have I ever posted that there was anything wrong with the two bite rule.

I see it as I do many parenting issues. People do what they feel works best for their family. Some choose to use the two bite rules, some choose not too. Neither one is automatically wrong.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:14pm
FYI the matter-of-fact, respectful approach does not work for all kids all the time. I remember a friend gave me the same lecture about never giving in and the tantrums will stop. Then she got to see it in action and was genuinely awed by how consistent I was and how matter-of-factly I stuck to my guns, every, single, bleeping, blessed time. Some kids simply are not cooperative in the way that you seem to imagine that all kids are, and it is not due to defective parenting.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:14pm
i don't get it then. do you take the backpack away, or not? if it's sailing over your head, i've taught my kids to pick up the backpack when i tell them i want them to--so i don't have to waste my time confiscating it. i've taught them to taste a bite of food when i tell them i want them to--so i don't have to try to figure out some sort draconian consequence if they refuse to.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:15pm

I realized that I can't control what my child eats on a regular basis, just because they spend a large portion of time out of my control....via school, activities and so forth so I wanted to lay down a ground work of good eating habits and one of those was the two bite rule for new foods.


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I think the opposite, encouraging a child to open minded about new foods isn't risky at all and teaching a child to try something before they say they don't like it is a very good teaching moment about not judging something based on the outside.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:16pm
No child with access to food is likely to starve himself to death.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:18pm

Rules and consequences are not the same thing.


<< If that's not the case, what do you mean when you say you don't separate it out? >>


As I have said before, I don't put more/less importance on any of the house/family rules.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:19pm
All you said in post 281 is that it is not a battle because you do not separate it out etc. You never did say what happens if your kids do not obey the rule, house rule or any other rule.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:20pm

That's not my parenting style, my style is more to teach a child while they should

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:22pm

Yep, it's just those what if's that keep getting in the way.


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