it's all in what works for your family

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Registered: 07-18-2009
it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:49pm
I have not once talked about spanking, nor is that a punishment we used. You can teach many things by modeling, by repeatedly expressing expectations, taking advantage of the child's natural desire to belong to the group and so on. However, I would not call any of those things "rules."
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:53pm
to this day i remember kindergarten.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:58pm
there's a particular sneaker DD1 wanted for school this year.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:00pm
i respect my children and my children respect me without having to enforce some two bite rule.

 

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:08pm

so you are hung up on the word "rule"? do you freak out, too,

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:11pm

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I may be misreading this, but aren't kids who decide after two bites that they don't like something still limiting their food intake to whatever they want? Say my kid took the 2-bite rule for every veggie we offered but he decided he didn't like a single one and would rather eat meat and potatoes. Isn't he also limiting his food intake to whatever he wants - the meat and potatoes?

With few exceptions, my kids aren't big on many veggies. I think with some kids, they might realize that they can load up on the things they *really* want w/o having to eat the things they don't simply by taking the two bites and proclaiming they don't like something. If I'm reading your posts correctly, then the next time you have that item, they don't have to eat it b/c they've tried it once and proclaimed they didn't like it, correct?

I can see both sides to this argument and I'm somewhere in the middle. Honestly, I'm not sure what the "right" answer is but we kind of figure it out based on each of our kids' personalities - we don't necessarily have the same method for each kid and we kind of adjust how we handle the situation based on different variables.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:06pm

Don't tell me your child was arguing with you! I thought they didn't do that.

My kids like the skateboard shoes. They don't look all that attractive to me, but they were within our price range (under 40 dollars) and they were not obnoxious, so I would let them have them next time we go shopping for shoes if they want. I would certainly not try to talk a teen out of a fashion simply because it looked ugly to me.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:22pm
I just got LIza an outift at Walmart for about $14 -- dress and leggings-- it's in basically plaid flannel which I think is hideous - she loves it - LOVVEEEEEES it -- I figure for $14 it doesn't matter one whit if I like it or not...
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:31pm
There are a whole lot of battles I would fight with teens regarding clothing....modestly, appropriateness, etc, etc.....but ugly isn't one of them.
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:40pm

you got me,LOL.


but yes.

 

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