it's all in what works for your family

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it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 9:31am

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AGAIN, yes I have, see post 281 and many, many others...you are again asking me a what if question about something that hasn't happened.

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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 9:44am
Thank God for dress codes. It means that the majority of the things I buy for the kids are things that pass the adult test. My older one is into the preppy plaid shorts this year. I think they are stupid, but they are not offensive. He got a couple of pairs to start school and I'll probably get him another pair for Christmas.
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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 11:26am
What is the relevance of saying it 100 times? None of us has placed more importance on the 2-bite rule than any other rule.
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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 11:40am

Respect and cooperation go both ways in my family. When a child is clearly distressed by an arbitrary rule like "you have to eat 2 bites of what I put on your plate," especially when it involves a bodily function, we find a better way to accomplish the goal.

And I really try not to "make" my kids do things they refuse to do, even when it doesn't involve a bodily function like eating or sleeping. I want them to learn to make good decisions on their own, not to do things to please me or because I "make" them. To me, "making" a child do something is not about respect and cooperation.

I don't see a post where you acknowledged that the 2-bite rule won't work for everyone. Saying you never said it didn't really isn't the same thing. So do you recognize that it doesn't work for every kid? Or don't you?

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 11:42am
Why are you going on and on and on about this? She has simply said what they do in her family, and that it works for her kids. Most of us find something that works for our kids and we run with it, don't we? I've never seen anyone claim that their particular practices will work with 100% of kids 100% of the time.
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Registered: 07-10-2009
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:08pm
We like brussel sprouts.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:13pm
We're a Brussel Sprout eating family as well. I almost feel as if I am confessing something shameful here!
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Registered: 07-10-2009
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:22pm
We have a one bite rule.
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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:23pm
I love them but the children (dh and dd) are not keen. They will eat other cabbages though, but not brussels and cauliflower.
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Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:29pm
My kids have to ask to be excused, and have done so since they were old enough to speak.

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