it's all in what works for your family

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Registered: 07-18-2009
it's all in what works for your family
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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 6:38pm

I don't believe that children that have parents that work outside of the house are at a disadvantage... I also don't believe that children that have a parent that stays at home somehow benifit.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 9:11pm

We take kids and ourselves to recommended restaurants that we personally know little about. We love ethnic specialties: Cambodian, Thai, Guatemalan, Vietnamese, Cuban...rarely a kids menu offered.

My kids like grains, noodles, rice, vegetables, meats, seafood so there is usually something they'll find to order.

It is usually a success, occasionally a disaster, but it's always an adventure.

About the only thing I can say is that we rarely try Indian anymore. I have a friend who invites us for Indian vegetarian that the kids love, and the Indian restaurants in our vicinity just can't match.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 9:30pm

I'd rather get it done in one trip. We needed new shoes and socks for the school year - the boys grew from a size 3 to size 5 and 6 in past 6 months. We tried 6 different types before an acceptable seem was found.

Adult socks apparently are different than children's socks according to my child with sensory issues. We'll be ordering online Ralph Lauren Polo socks by the gross in the future. Non-sensory issue boy thinks they look ok, so he's on board with the selection.

BTW - I buy about 6 pairs of athletics socks per year for myself (I run), my boys go through about 50 pairs per year. What's up with that?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 2:19am
I thought you said something to the effect that if it wasn't followed that was ok too, which certainly implied that there were times when it wasn't. You also mentioned that your "enforcement" of house rules consists of repeating the rule.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:34am
Yeah, we roast them with a carmelized onion glaze and a bit of crumbled bacon. We also serve them steamed. With the steamed ones, we make sure to pull off the tough outer leaves and get them so they are not "mushy."
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:37am
Maybe people are thinking about what would happen if they suddenly introduced this rule to older kids. That would be a disaster. When we got our foster daughter, she was not used to sitting down to table and eating a meal with the family. EVERYTHING had to be taught, and she was 11. It was a rather difficult two months or so while we socialized her to proper mealtime behavior. On the other hand, it made me appreciate the boys, who sometimes act like little barbarians, but on the whole, understand not to grab, don't whine about the food, put their napkins in their laps, just all kinds of things that you forget had to be taught.
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Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:41am
maybe but I'm also thinking of Liza as a toddler -- LOL -- she pretty much was as combative then as she was now -- and yeah I took the easy way out I admit it, but I'm also not all that worried -- she'll find her way and discover new things in her own time.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:47am
We never had a rule about trying everything, and our kids are fairly adventurous eaters. I have no problem with people who have some kind of rule/guideline about that that doesn't lead to undue battles. Obviously if you try something and it doesn't work, leads to more battles than it's worth, whatever, you try something different. It seems to have worked for PA's family. I never felt the need to implement anything like that, and I am sure that those people who say the rule would never work for a particular type of todder are right. My second son's first sentence was an argument, and his first instinct when asked to do something is STILL to argue. Believe me, I try to minimize occasions for conflict with that one!
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Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:52am
true that -- it took me YEARS to figure out that the best approach for Liza was to feign indifference -- I do alot of "meh. I don't care. eat it or don't"
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:58am

does it somehow make you feel good about yourself to suggest that my kids are tricky little brats? i really don’t understand that, on several levels. obviously, the kid who would dump the plastic bag on the floor is *not* the kid (like mine) who would pick the backpack up when asked to, but the kid who would defy the request so his or her parent had to follow up with the initial consequence of taking the backpack away.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 11:15am

What about..."No thank you, I don't want to speak nicely to others."

PumpkinAngel

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