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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 2:29pm

Dh and I went to an Indian place for dinner last night. (GREAT!)


As we were about done with our dinner, a lady with her 5 kids, ages about 14 to 6,

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:47am
If you believe that children should be properly restrained in cars, then why did you accuse merella of "superior parenting" (as if there is some sort of stigma attached to it?) for restraining her children properly? I don't get it.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:47am
LOL! My dd is a bit like that, although I don't think she consciously associates it with her size yet. She's quite content to let people do things like that for her, and I find that people (like my parents, her friends' parents, etc.) are much more willing to do it than they seem to be with a kid who is bigger than she is.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:51am
Peer pressure took care of that one for us. We had taken dd1's training wheels off this spring. She tried a few times, and then decided she didn't want to risk it. Then our 4yo neighbor started riding without hers. Suddenly one day dd says I want to try riding without my training wheels again. Apparently she was ready because it literally took about 5 minutes for her to master it.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:51am

<> I don't either.

<> Right, and that's all we're talking about. Embarassment over something her peers don't necessarily have to use. Embarassment because other kids might look on it as being "babyish."

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:56am
And that's all we're talking about. Embarassment. Awkwardness. The fact that they must use it and they understand that they must use it doesn't dimish the fact that some kids are embarassed about it. I think this whole thread got blown out of proportion simply because a couple people explained how it could be embarassing for some kids. I think you and I basically feel the same way. But I guess I don't understand some people (not necessarily you) who can't understand that that child can still feel embarassed or awkward knowing that it's necessary for their safety.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:00am
I truly don't know Callahan's height. But he's about 38 pounds. He turned 5 in June. He wears a size 3 and those are often too big in the waist. He's in about the 10th percentile. There are 2-3 kids smaller than him in his class, but they're all girls. The boys tower over him by at least a head's height. Luckily, Callahan makes up for it in personality; it doesn't seem to bother him at all.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:05am
Oh, I know it happens, but it surprises me. Is your preschooler still in a 5 pt harness? If so, wouldn't you worry that it wasn't installed correctly in the car he was driving in? Who installs them?
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:06am

Don't worry. My now 13yo was on the smaller side when he was 5 or so. Actually he was always in the 50% percentile when he was younger, he just looked smaller because he was on the younger side for his class (not a reason to hold him back, though).

I knew of 2 people that had kids both a year older than my son. Both kids were at least 3" taller than my son, but again, both about a whole year older and in the same grade. Every time I would see either of the moms, they would comment on the size of my son and that he was small. I would attempt to explain that their kids were almost a whole year older and my son was actually average, but they were too stupid to grasp the concept.

Anyway, he's now 13 and 130 lbs and 5'7". He is right in the middle, actually on the larger end, and all muscle. I would like to see both of those kids now. It is amazing what happens during puberty, I'll tell you.

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:07am
Now if I said to you, "wow, isn't it awkward for Peter that he still uses training wheels?" wouldn't you take read that as a negative comment? A 6 y/o is still using training wheels when most of his peers can ride w/o them?
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:08am
That's true. A lot of the smaller kids tend to excell in sports also (well maybe not basketball) but certainly soccer, lacrosse, etc. They are fast and low to the ground. Some of the bigger kids can't move.

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