Just what is a SAHM?

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Just what is a SAHM?
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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:38pm

I was taking a class recently from a well known designer--she is on the design team for a couple of companies, she teaches classes, writes articles, and sells her own creations from time to time online.


She started her introduction by saying "I'm a stay at home mom who also....." and then went on to describe what she does professionally.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:06am

well, I'm sorry to be the one to break it to ya, but you are, technically a wahm -- doesn't matter that you don't need childcare or you do it while your child naps. Besides, what will happen when your child doesn't nap anymore?


eileen

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:07am
good for you with school..my neighbor is taking classes at the local community college and has attempted her pushes at me joining her,if just to further my interest with the language of spanish.

 

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:19am
I don't understand what is "fraudulent" about saying you work part time.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:22am

keep it simple...he's a wohd who happens to work nights. He happens to be at home during the day.


eileen

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:23am

well using that logic then you should call me a full time SAHM who happens to work during the day...


If you work at a full time job you work.

 

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:25am
Actually the first time I ran into the "I am a SAHM with a job" phenomenon was at an Usborne Books party. The woman was thirty miles away from the town she lived in, selling books to strangers at a party for money. Yet she's up there telling us that being an Usborne Books rep is the best gig in the whole world because "it allows you to stay home with your kids while still earning pretty good money." I questioned her about how many parties a month she had to do to make the level of income she was talking about. She said she did between ten and fifteen parties a month. I figured that she must have spent two hours at the party, plus maybe 45 mins afterward totting up stuff with the hostess, plus an hour on the road. So give her 3.5 hours being conservative, times ten, and she's working outside the home a minimum of 35 hrs a month and calling herself a SAHM. I don't get it. It's not like being a WOHM is something you are so ashamed of that you have to hide it -- or is it?
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:27am
That definition would include about 2/3 of the mothers of young children here at the university -- we work fairly demanding jobs, yet many of us use no or minimal child care. By that definition, I would have been a WOHM while my kids were little, because they went to daycare while I worked, but once they started school and my hours fit theirs, I suddenly became a SAHM? My status didn't change an iota. That's ridiculous.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:29am
I would consider you a SAHM with a couple of very part time jobs.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:32am
Try telling the IRS that the job doesn't count because it's not enough to feed a family. I don't think it would get you very far. Why is the idea that paid work is paid work somehow a "stretch?" I think the "stretch" comes in when you try to define "paid work" as "not really paid work at all."
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:34am
So why doesn't a person with a day job say that she is a "nurse by day and a SAHM by night?" Why does WHEN you do your paid job define whether you are a paid worker or a SAH parent?

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