Just what is a SAHM?

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Just what is a SAHM?
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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:38pm

I was taking a class recently from a well known designer--she is on the design team for a couple of companies, she teaches classes, writes articles, and sells her own creations from time to time online.


She started her introduction by saying "I'm a stay at home mom who also....." and then went on to describe what she does professionally.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:38am

I am an economist, so I'll say "It depends".


For the purposes of a debate forum, like this one, we need to have fairly strict definitions of the terms we use.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:39am
Um, no, because unemployed parents are busy looking for jobs.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:41am

exactly what I said.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:41am
Someone who has a job is clearly a working parent.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:42am
Actually when I was unemployed my focus was on taking Liza to every mini golf course in NH and finding the best cookie dough ice cream in the state.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:43am
I don't know. I think a lot of people tie being a SAHP to working certain hours and/or the use of othercare more than to lack of paid employment. Perhaps they identify more strongly with true SAHPs than with WOHPs with traditional 9-5 jobs?
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:45am
But at the end of the day a parent is leaving the house tow ork at a job full time...making him or her a full time working parent.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:48am

But why would working only certain hours or not using child care make any difference to whether you have a job and are thus a working parent (or not?). By the definitions you are using, I was a WOHP until my youngest started first grade, then I magically became SAHP because we no longer needed paid childcare. Which makes no sense whatsoever.

Saying that a WOHP is only a WOHP if he/she works full time and needs childcare really negates all the creative, flexible arrangements people work really hard to achieve in order to maximize their time with their kids at the same time holding onto a career.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:49am
I don't think it is. The main reason I stay at home is to be with my dd during the day and to not use childcare. If your kids are in school, why do you have to be at home to be a
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 9:54am

I am on a nine month contract, as is about 7/8ths of the faculty here. I don't always stay at home during the summer, some summers I contract to teach summer school. But often we are away the whole summer. Sometimes when we are away I am doing part time work in research libraries, but I am not getting paid for it. One summer we lived in Paris for free if I did tours for visiting student groups on Tuesday evenings and all day Wednesday. So I guess I was a PT WOHM then. But most summers I am off.

Why would you consider my career not a career because I manage to do it mostly when my kids are in school?

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