Just what is a SAHM?

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Just what is a SAHM?
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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:38pm

I was taking a class recently from a well known designer--she is on the design team for a couple of companies, she teaches classes, writes articles, and sells her own creations from time to time online.


She started her introduction by saying "I'm a stay at home mom who also....." and then went on to describe what she does professionally.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:29am

Because they define a SAHP as someone who is at home with the kids during the day. They don't define it terms of employment. It is a limited and not very logical definition for the reasons you point out.

However, I don't think that DH "negates all the creative, flexible arrangements people work really hard to achieve in order to maximize their time with their kids at the same time holding onto a career" by saying that he is a SAHD with a job. When he tells someone that he is a SAHD with a job, he's pointing out that flexibility albeit in an illogical way.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:31am

Adding:


I think culture also can determine what a mother calls herself.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:33am
I normally get your examples, but you lost me at the puzzle thing. Since when do people get paid to solve puzzles (excluding Survivor...)

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:41am
Bingo.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:48am
You won't get too many takers for your theory that volunteer work makes you a wohp.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:57am

Not based on the definition of this board.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 11:01am
I totally disagree. There's paid employment, and there's volunteer work, community work, and so on.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 11:12am
I totall agree!!
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 11:19am

I don't know. I've always been proud to say that I'm a professional dressmaker, even when I was doing it at home and homeschooling. Saying that one doesn't work while pulling in money sounds to me as if they are ashamed of what they are doing to make money. Take pride in what you do or do something else. Life is too short for anything else.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 11:26am

I agree with you. I think a lot of people who have jobs and are sort of ashamed to admit it are people who always want to give the impression that their families "come first" and that they are afraid people will think they don't love their kids or something if they have jobs.

In my office, I have a credenza next to my desk that is full of photos of my family. A long time ago I had a boss who fretted about those photos. A lot. He'd say, "I dunno about these baby photos, Lois. Somebody coming in here the first time would think your kids are more important to you than your job."

To which I'd always say, "Somebody is pretty perspicacious, hunh, Charlie?"

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