Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 6:52pm
True.
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Registered: 10-04-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 7:30pm

Much higher than that.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 7:32pm
Saying you'd go crazy home 24 x 7 isn't the same as saying you work to avoid your kids.
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 7:38pm

"I know more than one who couldn't wait to have kids so she could stop working....That only happens if you give them to someone else to raise."

Isn't that true.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 8:03pm
I wouldn't say as an "excuse", necessarily,
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 8:08pm

LOL! I would have LOVED to have "avoided" my special needs dd when she woke up at 1:30 am (didn't go back to sleep until 2:30 am) and then again at 5:15 am (when I got her up and let her fall back asleep in her wheelchair -- BUT I didn't go back to sleep).

Of course, even working, most parents are with their children 75-80% of the time AND the difference between hours with sah and woh almost disappears once children enter FT school hours.

eileen

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 8:28pm
Eileen, you weren't supposed to take this seriously.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 11:24pm
Love part time. Would never ever go back to full time. Even when the kids were adults. I started part time when I was pregnant for the second time, for the reason of the kids. But I'd never do full time again. I also would never want to be completely dependent on a man. I think there's too much risk of it changing the dynamics of a relationship.
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Registered: 08-07-2008
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 11:25pm
Very interesting view points!
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 11:50pm
I am so impressed that you were such a good cosmetologist that you were able to afford the nicest house on the block, new cars, eating out all the time, and spur of the moment vacations. Although aren't great cosmetologists such as yourself booked up months in advance? Didn't your clients get mad at all those spur of the moment vacations?

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