Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:07am



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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:09am


I'll just ignore the rest of your comment since you are more interested in being the speallieng nazi than you are in commenting.>



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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:11am

I have been very fortunate in having jobs that on the whole I have loved. The one place that turned out not to be flexible enough (they bought out the company that was flexible) for me ended up not scheduling me for 2 weeks in a row, forcing me to look for another job. They did me a favor because I tend to stay put in a job. The job I did get after that one, I have been there for almost 11 years (in Oct.) with one break 7 years ago when I thought I wanted to wah ft. I was wrong and went back to that job pt. And have been there ever since.

Dh, on the other hand, has worked in, shall we say, less than ideal jobs. He stuck with them until something came along that was a better fit. Now he has a job/career where he will stay (barring God having other ideas) for the rest of his life.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:19am
What would you consider a "valid reason" to work outside the home besides getting a salary?
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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:24am

While he expresses admiration for many stay-at-home moms who have a whole lot of well-behaved kids and an immaculate house, he pretty much expresses admiration for a whole lot of people--dual working families who have successful careers and great kids, single moms, single dads, stay-at-home dads with successful wives.


I had to laugh reading this based on my own experience.

suzjuly6.jpg picture by LadyCaribou

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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:30am

The only thing he notices about other people's situations are if their kids are worse behaved than our oldest (silently feeling much better about our parenting)


Make that my 4yo instead of oldest and you could be talking about my dh....except I've noticed a couple of times over the last few weeks that he's commented on the cleanliness (or lack of) of a couple of homes.

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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:32am

oops, I forgot I changed my siggy, lol.


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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:32am



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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:35am

Mike is a neat freak.

suzjuly6.jpg picture by LadyCaribou

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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:36am

I'm hearing ya!!


That dh of yours is way too good to be true. :-)



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