Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:29pm

Why?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:31pm

Why?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:32pm
Who says, really? There's no law saying that somebody has to have a paid job if they don't want it or need it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:32pm
How does whether a person's family needs that person's income relate to whether or not a person is productive or not?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:33pm

I think you are assuming that work gets in the way of spending more time with one's children or that being a sahm means that one spends all of their time with their children.


Both are pretty much assumptions.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:34pm
Because children are involved.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:36pm

I never said that one did, so I direct you back to my question that you didn't answer.


Why does one need a valid reason not to stay at home with the kids?

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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:36pm
Why does a person have to be "productive"? If a person wants to stay home and grow flowers or bake pies or do counted cross stitch or futz around in his wood shop all day, and it's not costing you or me anything, why not?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:37pm

That does not follow. The choices in life are not limited to "make money" or "spend time with kids."

Kids have lives of their own that do not and should not (IMO) involve the parents directly. When the kids are very small the part of their lives that is independent is very small, but it grows quickly. It is not very logical to build your whole life around spending time with the kids, because if you do you, it won't take long before you might be pretty lonely.

Apart from that, I would hope that most people have more possibilities in their lives than making money or spending time with their kids. A full life to me involves so much more than spending time with my kid, and hers involves so much more than spending time with me.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:37pm

So?


PumpkinAngel

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