Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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| Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm |
No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?
I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.
I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.

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I don't think that being productive is a either yes or no but rather in degrees. I think that very few people are completely unproductive.
Are you for real? Is it REALLY that hard to even begin to imagine that some of us (heck, maybe MANY of us) actually ENJOY our jobs, like what we do, find satisfaction in a job well done AND can do all of that WHILE raising kids????
FWIW, I have (and will continue to have) spent PLENTY of time with my children over the last 17 YEARS. In fact, you get to a point where, as teenagers, they just don't spend so much time with you because they're busy with their own "stuff".
eileen
It's not a matter of not wanting to spend more time with Dylan (although a little of his company goes a long way :). After all, most of my working hours are done at home. I love what I do and part of what I do is better done at the bridal shop. For bridal alterations, I prefer the another level of authority to back me up. Their dressing rooms and fitting rooms are much nicer and larger than what I could provide at home. Their mirrors are also larger. The brides have access to slips to rent so they don't have to buy one. The gowns don't leave the shop and I'm not responsible for them. I really love what I do and I'm very good at it. Dressmaking and alterations are dying arts.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Yes and no. Dylan does go to the shop with me when there is no school. But he is at an age when hanging out with mom shouldn't be the default position. He's 10 and will start 5th grade on Monday. And the girls are all adults with their own lives to live. Although I'm very much enjoying Joy and family living with us. I liked being with all my kids, including Erica, but not to the point of not having any time for myself or with dh. I need/require alone time away from other people including kids and dh. Sewing, to a great extent, is a solo occupation. My best days at the bridal shop are ones in which I have no fittings and can just hang out in the back room, sewing.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Now I'm confused as this is what I was responding to:
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i've never said it couldn't be -- all i've said is that isn't how "I" want to parent -- EVEN IF we had enough money for me not to work. I LIKE being able to work AND raise kids.
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I don't know any parents who compare their child's "little moments" to monetary value OR put money Over those moments. Over the last 17 YEARS, I've had "little moments" galore, as well as BIG moments too. They have had NOTHING to do with my job outside of the home -- and my job certainly has not precluded seeing any of them.
eileen
So then why the question about a valid reason to woh not to mention the stereotypes in that post?
I always find it fascinating that so much occurs only during working hours, lol.
PumpkinAngel
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